didnt want to hang out with her on this pass weekend. she knows i pregnant and that i don't hang out anymore becaues im pregnant and married. should she be mad at me.
2006-12-18 14:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by MISS HEWITT 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no. she should understand that you are growing up and moving on to another point in life. this just shows that she is immature and doesn't really care about your new life, just your old one. she may not be ready for you to move and you may lose this friend because of it.
2006-12-18 14:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should be mad only if you cancelled on her...over and over again. Other than that, she shouldn't be. She should be supportive of you! I know how it is sometimes, you just want to be home. You don't want to go out, etc. Sometimes, of course! I know I was always tired with my pregnancy.
You should talk to your friend though. Tell her it's nothing about her, it's just that you are married and you are starting a family. It's a lot of work and you are pregnant on top of it so sometimes you won't be able to hang out. Maybe you should get together for a once a week/month lunch date. That way you can stay caught up on the most recent events and see each other, etc. Just be sure to tell her how you feel and WHY you feel like that.
I know it sounds weird and like she's being selfish, but she's affected by this too. She is "losing" a friend in her mind. She may feel like you are avoiding her and you don't want to have anything to do with her after. I know it's not true, but she may feel that way!
Congrats and don't worry too much about it. If she's a good friend, she'll understand and stick around!
2006-12-18 14:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she shouldn't be mad at you but you also shouldn't blow her off just because you're married and pregnant. It will take some time for you two to adjust to a new way of spending time together. She has to understand that you don't want to hang out at the same places you hung out before since they may not be appropriate venues for married people and infants. But you need to understand that she's missing your friendship and might be longing for an invitation to take part in your new life. She doesn't want you to forget about her and we ALL need girlfriends so try your best to take her feelings into consideration, too. Good for you though, for making a responsible decision to stay away from whatever pre-pregnancy activities she's suggesting that don't jive with your current lifestyle.
2006-12-18 14:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me just ask you something. Just because you're pregnant and married, does that mean you can't still spend time w/friends?
By hanging out, do you mean going to clubs, bars, or what? Certainly, if you feel like it, you can have a cup of tea with her, or just window shop or something else you both enjoy doing.Because having friends is still important. You can't spend all your time w/your spouse, nor he w/you. That's not healthy.
Friends are important, too. You can try to adapt the friendship to your married/pregant status. Good friends are hard to come by. You don't want to lose her, do you? Try to put yourself in her shoes.
Explain to her that you still want to be friends, but that the friendship may have to undergo a transition.
2006-12-18 14:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend doesn't get mad over things like that. If she wants to get mad then let her be. You have a husband and a baby on the way so you have more important things to think about then some pity high school junk like that. You haven't did anything wrong at all. I was in that situation before with a friend of 15 years. She finally got over it because I didn't give in. Now she understands me and we're cool.
2006-12-18 14:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on where you were supposed to be hanging out and what you would be doing.. I feel that if she is TRULY a friend that she would understand that one, you don't want to go out and be around clubs etc, and two, your pregnant! Your going to tire out very easily.... sit down and talk with her about it and if she can't understand the changes that your going through, then maybe she wasn't as good of a friend as you thought she was...
2006-12-18 14:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by mac15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO she shouldn't. You need to sit down and talk to her. Let her know you still want to hang out, but you are pregnant and married and the things you used to do aren't as fun anymore. The two of you together need to find time and things to do that will be fun to both of you.
2006-12-18 14:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on your pregnancy, I personally don't want to have a little boy for my first one, just because they think there little super heroes. But as for your friend, you just got to be yourself, but keep your friends. That is something special that you have. Not something that you have to share with everyone else. Just call her and explain to her that you don't want to do soo much extravagant stuff anymore, you want to start settling down. and who knows maybe she might suprise ya and be a new coffee buddy. Being mad at someone is over rated, she's just probably confused and a little irritated. I would be mad at someone if they hit my car or called me a rude name, but not for going out on a weekend. So give the girl a call and explain yourself.
2006-12-18 14:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that she's jealous of the baby, but no, she has no right to be mad at you. You're married and having a baby. Unfortunately she won't know how you feel until she gets pregnant herself. Good luck with your friendship.
2006-12-18 14:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by kksundin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is missing you and feeling replaced. Alot of people get married and have kids and cut off their friends. The friend feel gilted and I understand. Why can't you have family and hang out with friend? I am a single mom and wish I could, you have someone to watch the kids...
2006-12-18 14:34:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋