im like a teen and i have this boyfriend. he's really great and i love him and he loves me too. but today while we were IMing eachother he said he lves me like how we normally do. then he said would you marry me? and i just put LOL cuz i thought he was joking and he put no seriously would you marry me? i was like OMG and he said would you i didnt want to be mean cuz i love him but right now we're still both young. and so i said yes. and now he's all happy but i dont know if yeah. i love him alot i just dont know if i should be thinking about marriage. what should i tell him without him thinking that i dont love him???
2006-12-18 14:24:25 · 11 answers · asked by RAND0M CHiCk_♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just explain to him how you just explained to us.. While you are young you need do be young. Do not rush into anything. If he really loves you then he can wait....!!!! I would just sit him down and explain everything. Good luck.
2006-12-18 15:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 18 I got married at 17.I dont know how old you are but age has nothing to do with love and if your relying solely based on people telling you that you are to young that's just them putting doubt in your head.I love my husband sooooo much I could never picture my life without him.I met him when I was sixteen and by the time I was 17 I was out on my own.The first time he brought up marriage was on the computer and of course like you I was like ok whatever cause I thought I was to young to.I finnally realized this is the man I love this is the man I wanna spend my life with.We have been happilly married for almost a year now.I'm not telling you that you should marry this guy I'm just saying your old enough to make your own decisions you will soon become a young adult out in the "real world" so you need to start making decisions on your own based on what you know in your head.
2006-12-18 22:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by amanda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends how young you are. Also you shouldn't get in over your head. Marriage is a huge commitment (as i am sure you already know) and you what to be totally on the same page. I mean if you to are truly in love then yeah i mean marriage is a possibility. Also there are laws determining the age of which someone can get legally married. Just make a wise decision.
2006-12-19 00:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by linkielock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u do love him and u will marry him... someday.
Tell him for now you should look into a Promise ring (not engagement) and that some day when ur older u would love to marry him. Until that Marriage takes place ur not actually married. So I wouldnt worry about it too much... tell him u want a big wedding so he dont try to pressure you into a court house marriage.
2006-12-18 22:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him what you think: you love him but you think you're not ready for marriage (at least not sometime soon).
There are a lot of things to be considered when you got married (tell him this too) such as financial, and responsibility. Such as, is he ready to move out and be financially independent from his parents, can you both make money for yourself, what if a kid comes along? What about college? You love someone right now, but are you ready to spend another 50 years together?
If he's really ready - then you have to ask yourself about it. If you're doubting everything, I'd say don't marry him.
2006-12-18 22:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by meetha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you could just ride it out and see what happens or you could explain to him that maybe a 'promise ring' would be a better thing right now because you are so young. this is just like a promise to each other that when you become older and mature enough to be engaged and to marry that you will. you stay true to one another and that's that. i'm sure that he will understand and if he doesn't then oh well...
2006-12-18 22:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you think you're too young right now and if he really does love you he will wait. Let the love mature. It will only get better if it's meant to be. Good luck!
2006-12-18 22:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by ortdar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with the flow. Time will tell.
Unless he actually gives you a ring or makes plans for when to have the wedding I wouldn't worry or get to excited.
2006-12-18 22:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
asking u on im is no way to ask your hand in marrige first off
take it slow
you are a teen
he may not be the one
or he might be
i definatly agree that you should say not right now
u never know what could happen
2006-12-18 23:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by <3<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be honest. Tell him that you meant more someday... that you want to get some 'not tied down' living in before you go through with it
2006-12-18 22:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋