I have a 23 year old daughter with a long history of violent, anti-social behavior. She's homeless.?

Question

I can't have her with me for lots of reasons. She ended a 4 year relationship with her partner and is wandering the streets with no money. I don't know where she is, but have been in touch with the person she stayed with last night. I'm at a loss.

Answer 1

at 23, she's her own person now.. my parents are dealing with a similar situation with my sister.. my mom has been coddling her all her life and now she's 28 with little hope for a good future.. after a certain age, they need to start learning to fend for themselves.. especially if their negative lifestyle is starting to effect the parents' home..

Answer 2

By reading some of the previous answers you have received some of these people are partially right. At 23 she is really not your responsibility to coddle and take care of, but also at 23 a girl still needs a father or a mother, and if at all possible both. I can tell you this because I am a 23 year old that has been on my own since I was 17. I too have not been an angel in the past few years. I cannot tell you how much it means to know that I have parents to turn to when the going gets rough. If I were in her situation I would want my parents to care enough about me to try to get me some help. I think the first thing I could suggest you do is try to get a message to your daughter that you love her no matter what she is doing or have done in the past. I would also try to let her know that I am there for her and would do anything to try to work to have a decent relationship with her. Tell the person she stayed with last night to tell her you love her and want to see her. If you can get her to meet you and you can get her to listen to you above all else just tell her that you love her. Tell her that you want to help her but she has to help herself for you to be able to do that. Take her in because you are her parent and she is at a vulnerable point in her life. Let her know you will help her get back on her feet and start over again but she has to start acting like a resposible 23 year old if she ever wants to live a happy life. Help her get on her feet, find a job, an apartment. If all else fails, tell her you love her and want to help her. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 3

I don't know if I agree with your decisions, the only reason I say this is because I feel that a parent should never turn their child away for any reason. When u had ur daughter u made a commitment and now she is homeless. Have u tried to get her some professional help? Did u talk to her partner to see maybe if there was a problem between the 2 or if she had some other issues going on. Think about how u will feel if something happens to her, god forbid.

Answer 4

Chuck E. Cheese may be a lucrative place, but it would be more of a "take a baby girl and leave your son behind with a note" instead of an actual trade. Your son will be fine as long as you give him a lot of tokens to show how much you love him. Just remember that you can't trade back when your 15 year old daughter comes home pregnant, or becomes a stripper. You are on your own.

Answer 5

If you can talk to the person that she stayed with last night, then maybe you can find out where she is now. Tell this person that she contacts to tell her that you love her and to tell her she can go to the Dept. of Human Services and they will help set her up with a place to stay or you can call the police and they will put out an emergency order to place her in a safe environment where she will be monitored and taken care of. If she is still violent and people are not able to consider her safe to herself and others they will keep her and give her the help she needs. Please do this before something happens to her, make it clear to the police that you do not want her in jail, that is the worst thing for her right now, tell them to take her to a place that will help her, such as
a crisis center for women or whatever you have in your state.

Answer 6

Find a place for her, give a cell phone so you can get in touch with her...open your door to her..you can't have her living on the streets...people end up dead or easy pray...take action and give her a warm bed for a couple of nights...TALK TO HER

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear this--your daughter needs serious help. She does not need to be wandering the streets without money--she needs to see a doctor and on serious medication for her disorder.

Answer 8

It sounds to me as if you daughter has a mental illness. Please find her and encourage her to get tested for depression or bi/polar disorder. or maybe she has Temporal lobe epilepsy. Don't throw her away just because she isn't easy to deal with . our streets are full of mentally ill homeless people who just need MEDICAL help. They can't just straiten up and get it together, and as a small child BEATING her butt was NOT!!!!!!! what she needed. To often in today's society children and adults with mental problems are thrown in jail and left to rot. Or they die on the streets because their illness is not visible or easy to fix.

Answer 9

hi Julie Ann you need to find her let her know you care and try to help. if not by inviting her into your home then get her to a safe place where she can get advice or help with a bit of money if its practical to do so to get her a place to stay.
what a time of year to have to worry about things like that.
my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Good Luck

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Answer 10

Oh my God...I'm so sorry. I truly feel for you. Did you try other options before she left on her own or before she turned 18? I have a 19 yr old on drugs and worry every day and night. Please let me know what happens...maybe I can help somehow. [e-mail]