so after enough is enough?

Question

how do you deal with the pain of not having him there ... and being strong enough to not let him come back? i dont want to feel any pain!!! {this goes with the last question i asked}

Answer 1

(((hugs))) More Dr. Phil :-)
"Life After Divorce"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
"Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18

Peace :-)

Answer 2

i read your last question and didn't really know what to say other than if his behaviour is destructive or disruptive towards a stable family atmosphere then yea, leave him be

dealing with the pain is a whole different issue all in itself, time goes by and the pain goes away somewhat, booze helps, ice cream helps too, a new relationship might help or might do more damage, there is no quicky way of fixing the pain and making it go away

Answer 3

You must draw the line and not allow him to cross it. He cannot come back into your life until you are healed.

You deal with the pain one day at a time. You mark off the days that you cried only once. You force yourself to stop thinking about him. When thoughts of him come into your head you must push them away with thoughts of your future.

You future is bright and sunny. You will go out and do new things, you will start new hobbies, you will meet new people. You don't need him in your life anymore. You have outgrown him and are ready to keep moving forward. Keep telling yourself all these things when you find your thoughts slipping back to him.

Answer 4

pain is something that we need to go through, it is the thing that makes it possible to be able to move on and face the facts. it's the thing that causes us to see the truth in things. no one wants the pain but with pain comes growth, and wisdom. without the pain we would never move forward, we would just stay in the same place. pain is necessary, and in some things we do need to move on and be able to face reality. once we get past it, we Should never allow someone who hurt us back into our lives.

Answer 5

It's impossible not to feel pain my dear, that comes with the territory but do not allow yourself to be abused or neglected or let yourself get back in the position that made you dump him. It's not worth it, work on yourself and confide in friends and let it be. I wish you the best

Answer 6

You just come to realize that you are better off now without him. And, if you let him come back, it might be O.K. for a while, but the reason that you wanted him gone will resurface.

Answer 7

Each day it will get a little easier and before long you will have a day that you realize was not that bad. Remove everything possible that you can that reminds you of him. Pictures, Music, and rearrange the furniture. Hang in there, it will get better.

Answer 8

there's therapy... and i dont mean psychiatrist type.. i meant friend therapy.. shopping... chocolates... or new hobbies... just try new things.. of course avoid the things you used to do together with him... you can get a new pet or something... or sign up in a gym... just do something different...it will keep you focused on other things.. and eventually remembering him will not be as painful anymore... good luck... things DO get better...

Answer 9

Revolve you live around something that you will feel good about.


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Answer 10

There is only one way to rid of pain....give it all to God, he wants to help you lead your life and ease your pain, he loves you......he awaits your invitation.....Father I believe Jesus died for my sins, I ask Lord Jesus that you forgive me and make me brand new..... please come into my heart as my Lord and Saviour......amen