I am still living with my fiance's parents---we just got engaged and i want to move out so bad, and i just think that we are doomed to break up or divorce if we dont get some space and privacy and SOON! I am going crazy being told off and cussed at by his mom, as well as bossed around, belittled, and all this other crap that she pulls. She is all about the drama and my fiance is at her beck and call and i cant stand it. His mom does/says s&it to me when he is not around and i tell him, but i dont know why since he never listens or does anything about it, and even when she yells at me in front of him he says and does nothing. I told him i wanted to get my own apartment and he said that if i did it would stress me out and it would break us up. I said he can come with me and he said no, and i was like then if you think its gonna break us up, that is on you, i am not dumping you, i am saving my sanity and hes like i just don't think we could survive. I think he needs a wake up call.
2006-12-18 14:02:00 · 20 answers · asked by SuzyBelle04 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me-my husband is-once a mama's boy, he always will be. You may take him out of her house, but you will never change the dynamic of that relationship. If you can't deal with it, then you shouldn't marry him. It will only be a constant source of stress for you.
You are a threat to her, because you divert his attention away from her. You weaken the control she has. If you love him and he's worth it-tell him that while he thinks you just couldn't survive financially if you moved out, but your relationship will not survive if you don't. He already turned you down on the offer to go with him, though, so there's no guarantee that he even wants to move away from her regardless.
It may be for the best....think about it. If you move out, get married, have kids....THIS will be the woman at your xmas dinners, compaining and criticizing you. She will be the grandmother of your children, critiquing every diaper change and stuffy nose. It won't stop-ever.
2006-12-18 14:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the "Pansy treatment" you are getting here by all means stay with Norman Bates. If he lets his mother disrespect you right in front of him then he either has no respect for you or he is still afraid of his mother! Either way you need to lose the boy and find a man. And moving away will not help Norman grow some balls you kicking his @$$ to the curb might help him when this comes up with the next girl.
2006-12-18 14:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by dfgrace22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare marry that idiot. A man who loves you should defend you against ANYTHING. If he let's his mommy degrade and belittle you, how is he gonna treat you? You're gonna be stressed out if you move to an apartment...you should tell him that's already happening there. Ask him how stressed out HE would be if you cussed the old bioch out. This guy can't get married yet, mommy is still changing his diapers. I think you have to at least be potty trained. Move out girl. If he follows than good luck, if he doesen't, than you've had good luck.
2006-12-18 14:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out of this hell hole, He is not ready to make a commitment to you or to anyone Else for that matter. You don't need to live like this and his mom does not like u, and do u do not want this person as your future mother in law. can u imagine what a living hell your life will be?
Get out of there now. If he is mature enough then he will make his own decision if to stay at home with monster mom or to make a life with you.
Good luck
2006-12-18 14:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move out NOW. you are going to end up in the hospital physical and or mental) if you do not. Are you prepard to deal with this for 20 or more years? Because this is what you marriage is going to be like. Run don't walk run. Good luck and God Bless
2006-12-18 14:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you both need to grow up. First, why are you disrespectful to someone who lets you live in their house? (if she is in your personal biz, than ask her to leave it alone.) Second, what in the world are the two of you getting engaged for? If you can't make it on your own now, what do you plan to do when his mom is no longer going to let you live there? And finally, I think you need to get your own apt. and find out what life is all about.
2006-12-18 17:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god been there done that. You tell your spouse that if you all don't move soon like yesterday your marriage will fell. Get out and try your best to blow off those trailor trash mothers who can't let go of their son or accept that there's another women who is not number 1
2006-12-18 14:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u need to do is try to keep ur sanity alright by moving out then from there u would realized if ur boyfriend really likes u or not.
2006-12-18 14:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by spicywannaknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋