A guy and I became friends during the semester. During that time I told him of me having Asperger's Syndrome and I warned him that I couldn't distinguish when I would go over the "fine line" of being friends and wanting more. Well, I unintentionally did go over, and he stopped emailing me in the same manner as he had before. I continued to email him asking if I did anything wrong. He never responded, so I hand wrote him a letter apologizing for going over, and figured best that I just leave his life forever. I would have rather left him "annoyed" at me as opposed to him hating me, as I couldn't live with that fact. I gave him the letter and just walked away. He emailed me back, and emotions ran really high, I replied and then he wrote back one more time. In that email, he told me he didn't want to use the university email anymore and gave me his personal email. Is this a sign that he still does want to remain friends and not have me out of his life forever? I am so lost with it.
2006-12-18 14:00:47 · 5 answers · asked by left handed math geek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For those that do not know what Asperger's Syndrome is...
http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/aswhatisit.html
it is a real condition, and hopefully it won't be the demise of me.
2006-12-18 14:19:52 · update #1
Just wanted to mention that not all those that have Asperger's are non-emotional. I was diagnosed in 2004 and was told that it is a mild form, but none-the-less, Asperger's.
2006-12-18 14:22:48 · update #2
Umm...I guess so. It seems you r having an email relation. Instead of a face to face relation...learn some social skillz...put down the mouse & get out of the house. Go out together & chat 'em up!!
And what the hay is Asperger's Syndrome?? Who diagnosed this?? It's just an excuse for not living life!! There is a syndrome for wanting a little luvin??
geezzz
2006-12-18 14:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interesting that you would be having problems with social skills and be diagnosed as Asperger's. One of my very oldest (almost 20 years not), dearest friends-- and someone I ALMOST got into a fistfight with once when he stepped over the boundaries-- is an Asperger's patient, and just found out. That diagnosis answered so many qusetions. I am bi-polar. (don't we make a pair?) But no two hetero- males ever loved each other more! He simply has no emotions (nor do I many times), he doesn't know how to interact, and he "does his best" with being emotionally flat and intellecutally BRILLIANT.
I'd say that your friend wishes to communicate via personal e-mail is a HUGE step forward. Meaning, he isn't so sure of how you're going to be "face-to-face" next time, but he's willing to "take it the baby step" of continuing contact. Not wanting to use university e-mail means he wants to be sure that 50 unknown sets of prying eyes (AND the NSA (Federal)) aren't monitoring you. IF you're communicating privately, with personal e-mail, it means something "shined" in that note you handed him, and he's saying, "yeah! we can try again. But let's have some safe distance." E-mail allows you to communicate. That's a start! You might also both want to invest in some cheap $10 web cams (I just bought one on e-bay.
"Good luck!" I find that even the healthiest emotionally find this "human interaction" a mile of quicksand.
j
2006-12-18 22:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by John1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's at least open to still talking or listening to you. He may still be open to being friends.
2006-12-18 22:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be your friend. But don't be surprised if he doesn't want to keep his other friends out of it
2006-12-18 22:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least he's not ignoring you anymore. yeah... i think he still wants to be friends with you.^_^
2006-12-18 22:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋