her problems with her soon to be ex husband-to the exclusion of any other conversation at all except to complain about work or her other ex, do you maintain the friendship or cut it off? it's always been like this, she is very self-centered, but at least she used to pretend to care about my life and listening to me talk sometimes. now there is no back and forth. it's just her, her, her. do I ride it out and wait for her life to get better and "be there for her" or just shut her down? i'm getting tired to talking in circles about the same thing, but i want to be good friend.
2006-12-18 13:49:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been through exactly what you are going through. I finally learned to limit communication with this friend because even after her divorce has been final for 4 years she is still going on and on about her ex husband. It isn't cutting the relationship off completly but it is limiting the stress of it all.
2006-12-18 13:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru that. The only difference is that this friend went to the hospital like everyday because she hurt. I myself have been in two car accidents and suffer pain all the time I know what pain is and I don't take pain meds for it. She only wants the drugs, and all she can ever talk about is the fact that she hit her head or she fel or whatever, and that hurt me in a way because of what I have been through, not to mention she drained me always wanting to go to the hospital so I decided it was time to take care of myself for a change, and I dont 'talk to her very often anymore, I am too busy with my life to deal with her drama. I would suggest that you try to talk to her in a nice way and if that doesn't work then try not to spend as much time with her...
2006-12-18 22:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this and she pissed me off all the time because as soon as i wanted to say something about myself she didn't want to hear it and changed the subject but n e way what i did was cut her off but before i did that i sat down and told her what the problem was i thought that she would realize it but she never did and i just told her that i needed a friend who would listen to me and i would return the favor she was like whatever so i told her what i thought about her and what she was going through and i realized that she was not a true friend and honey i didn't lose no sleep over it either so whatever to her dumb A**
2006-12-18 21:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ben Franklin said that "a friend in need is a friend indeed." Are you going to call it quits just because she has a problem? Would you not see her in the hospital because she had pneumonia? Of course not. Then tell her that you will continue to listen because you are friends, but then ask her what you can do to help. Lastly, you know her, find some common theme that excludes the objectionable topic and YOU harp on that; but remember, she needs this and someday you might need her help.
2006-12-18 21:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by kellenraid 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help her find a new man. She will cheer up and stop complaining. She's just tired and stressed. My friend was the same way after a break up. Hell, she even took it out on me. We are like sisters though, so I took her out we git drunk, laughed and partied, she met someone and felt better about herself, and moved on. You need to get her out of her crappy mood. Go to a strip club, if there's a male review around you, if not check out the girls it's alot of fun, you'll be suprised how many young guys will be buying you drinks. Let your hair down Thelma and Louise.....Happy Holidays.
2006-12-18 22:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by lilyvix2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be nice to her. Maybe she feels like she needs a good listener right now. If you need her to show more mutuality, let her know you need her too. It's up to you to tell her what you need and what your conversational limits are. If you're kind and she's really a good friend, I'm sure she'll understand and you'll work through it.
2006-12-18 22:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that u would liek to talk abotu a different subject every once in a while.
right now she may need to talk to some one and you are the only person that she can talk to and let tell how she fells.
Be nice!.
2006-12-18 21:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Danny Gurrl T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would cut back on the amount of time that I spend with her.
2006-12-18 21:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by lil star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋