How do I get my husband to stop drinking everynight?

Answer 1

You cannot do it alone. He has to realize that the drinking is an indication of some type of problem. He may be an alcoholic in denial. He may be stressed at work and has no idea how to deal with is.

Answer 2

Unfortunately you are in a very bad position. I know, I am an alcoholic myself. Although not a practicing one. I gave it up 15 years ago. I was in the same position as your husband and so I will speak straight from the hip.
First ask him to stop and explain your reasons why. Either he will respect your wishes or he will not. If he does then he is not an alcoholic and your problem is solved.
However if he doesn't and gives excuses etc , then it is a safe bet that he is an alcoholic. Suggest to him ALCOHOLICS ANNONYMOUS. However if he is an alcoholic this probably won't work. Unfortunately you might have to bit the bullet. The alternative is years of misery for yourself and your children if any.
You must give him an ultimatum. THE BOOZE or YOU. If he choose the booze then you must leave him. I know it's hard, but not as hard as you and your children will go throught if you don't.
This will encourage him to come to his senses. He will now have a motive for quitting. If he then promises to quit, then help him.
A rehab and Alcoholics Annonymous. THEY WORK. They worked for me and many many others.
Make no mistake. Your husband may be in the grip of an addiction to alcohol. This is a desperate situation. It will take desperate action to solve it. It is solvable. But only if the PRICE is paid. It is a heavy price. But what price you future. What price your children's future. What price a decent and loving marriage.
When he has given up then your marriage will be on the road to happiness. It is worth it, many times over. But you have to decide youself to do it. My advise, my experienced advise is plain and simple. DO IT. And good luck.

Answer 3

If he drinks every night, he may be an alcoholic. You can't get him to stop drinking. However, you can make the attempt to by talking to him. I have tried to hide my ex husband's bottles, fill the bottle with half water, and even pouring it out so that he doesn't drink. That didn't work. He has to want to do it himself. What you can do is not to be supportive of his drinking by giving him money when he asks for it or going to get the drink for him. He may need to try AAA. All you can do is pray.

Answer 4

Does he drink until he get pissed or its just 1-2 glasses of wine/ liquor to make him feel relax..? if the answer is the last one; leave him alone. He most probably tired from work everyday and need to relax and unwind a bit..its better than he go to bars. ( i hope he drink at home..?)
If its a lotof liquors involved...you should talk to him. Really. tell him that you are not happy with it...go to see a counsellor will help. The best one will be AA group...but understanding and comrpomise should be made first between both of you
all the best

Answer 5

I attend a 12 step program that teaches about alcoholism. You can find meetings in your town - Al-Anon.

Al-anon is striclty for the spouse or friends of people who drink, whose drinking bothers the spouse or friend. We do not try to define alcoholism, but we know that the drinking is not stopping and we are crazy. We think that we can stop a drinker drinking! Hah! No-one has succeeded in making drunks get sober. Only drunks themselves can choose sobriety. They have to hit bottom. Anyway,

Sorry about the news. But if you attend al-anon meetings regularly you will find out how to live with a regular drinker and how to be serene whether the drinker is drinking or not. Go straight to a meeting, do not pass go, do not collect 200.

Going to Al-anon regularly is guaranteed to help YOU. It may or may not help the drinker. But you will learn ways to feel good about YOURSELF and get serenity.

Answer 6

You simply can't, especially if he has a "problem." Drinking will always be #1 for him. He needs to get to the point of acknowledging he has a problem, then he can move up from there. This happens all with great intervention (outside help).
Many lose everything before even accepting they have a problem.

Answer 7

That's a hard thing to go through. I know. I was once married to an alcoholic and it's a hard way to live. I had to get help from my husbands commander. He was in the Army. He was abusing me & my children.He did quit and started to A.A. but nothing changed for me. We ended up getting divorced & I am finally able to live a peaceful life. If you have someone to go to for help then do that.If you go to church you could try talking to your minister. I know it's hard and even harder if your being abused. Good luck.

Answer 8

And what are you giving up so that you can go through this together. You want me to quit when you smoke more money than I drink. Just some thoughts and talk to him after you look at things from both sides.

Answer 9

you can't. if they are alcoholics they have to get professional help and actually want to stop. My partner is a Medical Doctor and sees livers go to hell in people who drink themselves to death, It's very sad, but it is ultimately up to the person themselves to work with their other issues that causes them to drink so much, then it's off to rehab and counselling.
Good Luck, it's gonna be a looooong road.

Answer 10

First you have to stop nagging him and love and accept him for who he is . If he was drinking when you met him why are you trying to change him now. I know what you are going through but this is his life he is a grown man. Pray for him and this bad habit. Does he abuse you thats something different? Some women are going through worse.