I want to prove my wife is abusing me verbaly?

Question

My wife is abusing me verbaly, I want to use a tape recorder to
prove it in the court then divorce her.
Is it illegal to record while she is using bad language?
Does the court allow to present the recorded voice to prove her behavior against me.

Answer 1

it is best to have a 3rd party witness rather than a recording, a recording can't swear before a judge at the divorce hearing but a witness can, and if you want you can make the recording while your witness or witnesses are present so they can verify its authenticity. BTW, its a woman's world so good luck trying, and remember the only one who wins in the divorce is the lawyers

Answer 2

Why do you need to prove that she is abusing you verbally? If what you want is a divorce, why not get it? But to answer your question, I was told by my attorney that as long as you are apart of the conversation, you can record anyone. Whether or not the judge will be willing to listen to it in court is a different issue. You really should seek a legal counselor to answer this question as some states are different from others. But what I wonder is whether or not you and your wife can't work past the verbal abuse. Have you attempted to talk with her about how you are feeling? And if she is verbally abusive, what brings her to this point? At the first sign of a problem, we are ready for a divorce. You did however make a vow. These are just a few things for you to keep in mind. The grass may look greener on the other side, but may not be. What is happening in our society today?

Answer 3

Talk to an attorney first. Laws are different in different states. However, I believe most of the laws pertain to wire-tapping not merely hiding a tape recorder and turning it on when someone is talking to you. You may not even HAVE to use it in court. It may be enough to just record her and then let her hear how she sounds. Be sure you have a copy of the tape though in case she destroys it. There's a lot said about men abusing women, but very little is said about women abusing men, but it does happen, and not always just verbally. i know of cases where wives throw things, hit, curse, bite, all manner of things, but when it goes to court, it's "how could a little woman like that hurt a big strong man like you?" Pain doesn't have to be physical to be real. I say arm yourself with the evidence. If you have family/friends who have witnessed you being abused, call on them too. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 4

I would check on the laws in your state. Some states let you do that. Also talk to a lawyer or at least someone in his offce. They can give you some advice. If you can record the verbal abuse get one of those little voice activated recorders, that way when ever she speaks you will have it. Hope this helps even a little. Good luck.

Answer 5

Start seeking counceling because it will seem better for you in court. Yes you can record her and admit it into evidence. The other thing is once you have left her do not allow her any access to you- or if you have children you must take them with you until the court decides what to do- Make sure you make mention that you are fearful for their upbringing with the verbal and emotional abuse.

Answer 6

You don't need a reason to divorce your wife. It really doesn't matter if she's verbally abusive or not. Courts don't care why you're getting divorced. Further, even if the law still required you to meet some standard in order to get divorced, it would be hard to see how use of "bad language" would meet that standard.

Answer 7

I think you need to get some legal advice but l don't think that tape recorded evidence is allowed in court as it could be tampered with. You need some witnesses then you would have your proof. Good luck and Merry Xmas.

Answer 8

Do you really need all of that to divorce someone these days? What is the point of it? Are you genuinely concerned about her behaviour or is this about how it's making you feel?
Or is this just a great way to air out your issues in court?

I'm just confused as to what your goal is here. Can you elaborate?

Answer 9

If you wish to no longer be married, the courts couldn't care less about verbal abuse.... she won't get more money, nor will you. Almost all states are no fault divorce, and couples list "Irreconsilable differences". So don't bother. You don't need to prove anything, hon, just that you don't wish to be married any longer. See an attorney.

Answer 10

It's illegal to record someone without their knowledge. If you do not inform her that she is being recorded, the tape is likely inadmissible in court.

Why not just leave her if she's being abusive? What's worth staying in an abusive relationship?