Even since when I was young, I feel like alot of people especially boys seems to ignore me--yeah, you have the ones that do talk but not anything big. I'm not a bad person at all. I alot of people consider me as the quiet and smart girl, and so many people have considered me as a very nice person. I'm the type of person who seems to be quiet at first, but if you talk to me, i'll definitely start up a conversation with you. I'm definitely an innocent and good girl--I've never even kissed a guy. I'm actually a very funny person, and I love laughing. I enjoy lots of sports and could careless about makeup because I like my natural look. I'm actually pretty short (5'1") though I wish I was taller, and alot of people say I have a good body. My hair is actually really dark brown. I love rock music, couldn't live without it. I just don't know why guys seem to overlook it and pay attention to the others. I'm a nice girl, and it just stinks when this always happens to me. Any advice? Thanks!
2006-12-18 13:28:05 · 10 answers · asked by Stefanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When the right man comes along, and he WILL, you will know it, and he will appreciate you for who you are. If you feel as though you are so shy that you are avoiding situations in life instead of reaching out to people, if you are not taking people up on outings or feel as though you are missing something, and it sounds as if you are, explore who you are. Maybe it's time for a change in your life. Change is scary, I know, but sometimes it's a good thing. I was shy until I forced myself to get a job in a profession where I had to meet people as part of the job description. This was the right move for me. Maybe you just need to shake up your life a bit. Make a date with yourself to go out and get out of the house once a week. Doesn't matter where you go, as long as it is out of your comfort zone. Pretty soon, you will be surprised by what you can do. Believe in yourself. That is the key.
2006-12-18 13:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Trillium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong, hun. Depending on your age, guys don't really respond to quiet girls. That doesn't mean go and change yourself, just give it time. Alot of people think if you're quite and/or shy, you're snobby (I'm sure you're not, just saying what some people assume) and assume you will shoot them down if they try to talk to you. The only thing you need to do is be yourself. If there's a cute guy you want to get to notice you, strike up a conversation about something you like that you think he'll like. Being confident doesn't hurt either, just don't be overly confident. Most men find confidence very attractive. In alot of cases, men find the natural, less makeup look more appealing. Good luck!
2006-12-18 13:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice girl...
sounds like the typical guy is afraid of you, they might be looking for something more shallow.
You seem a little more mature and are a girl that wold be nice if a guy was ready for the long haul.
Don't despair, I'm sure there's a guy who's just waiting to find the courage to approach.
Good luck
2006-12-18 13:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by chuck_midwest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy, where were you when I was looking? (It's been a while.) My advice is to keep on being nice. Be a friend to all. And that means being helpful when the occasion arises. It will happen--perhaps when you least expect it or perhaps from a surprising direction. You sound perfectly delightful and a guy (or a bunch of guys) will recognize that one day.
2006-12-18 13:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly you're giving off the incorrect effect or are drawing near too reliable and are making those adult males uncomfortable round you -- attempt to change right into somewhat extra confident in your self -- be a chum yet not a superb chum to anybody -- coach that you do not choose human beings there yet you do not options it both. And basically be that relaxing-loving outgoing confident female and that's going to likely be change into your gravitational pull.
2016-11-30 22:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, about 16 or 17. Your looking in the wrong places. Go to church functions or volunteer at civic events. You'll find the right guy.
2006-12-18 13:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by dave_bugh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u might have to make the first move, guys are shy too, am sure as u chat and open urself up, the guys will like u as ur personality will come out, u have to have confidence in urself
good luck :)
2006-12-18 13:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by a m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, guys are some of the most confusing people on the planet. there's always a chance someone could like you, but they could be too shy to tell you. my advice: don't change to make anyone like you. if they don't like you it's their loss. just try and be more open, talk more and stuff.
2006-12-18 13:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by rainyday<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u 2 outgoing?
2006-12-18 13:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by UseMyAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more confident. Your being unsure is your only downfall. The more you try the better you will get.
2006-12-18 13:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋