seriously, what is it when you feel bad for feeling bad? is there a name for it? where could it have poss. come from? people in my life have made it abundantly clear that my feelings are a bother to them, or an inconvienance. they get mad when i am hurt or sad and don't have time for me. i know deep down that no one should be ashamed of thier feelings, but if i'm not happy at all times they take it personally and get angry, VERY ANGRY. then the cycle begins, when a simple awhhh... let me give you a hug, or everything will be O.K. turns into somthing else. more like an emptyness and let down. i should be use to it by now etc... i "feel" like genuine hurt or sadness is a betrayal to the people who say they love me, but i "know" it's not. then when i'm actually happy for whatever the reason, i feel like they only like me when i'm "happy" and it makes me question if they like ME, or only how i make THEM feel about themselves. any insight? yes you can tell it like dr phil if you like!
2006-12-18 13:20:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You deserve your feelings, whatever they are, ponieast. But I'm not about to invite you to share here bc this is no place to do so. You have private memories of hurt for sharing with people you are safe with. Find a support group. Learn to bond with them. In time, you will discover many 'buried' memories you don't hardly think about today, coming up for you, that will facilitate you to hear and heal yourself, in the presence of safe others who also share themselves in the righ time.
If you feel as if you're nothing, be careful you might be doing things you dont want to do, that's going to be troublesome for you in later years. When you bring old hurts up, you are finding recovery for yourself, so you don't go and hurt others in the same way you have been hurt.
What you have described here is just the 'tip of the iceberg'. Give yourself 1 year in a support group. You'll be a dif person from that, your family will not see the 'flower' in you yet, but they will , in time, genuinely. They may not change, but you would've found genuine connections...
2006-12-18 14:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may not have veen been pregnant though. some people have unprotected sex for months/years before they get pregnant. so your feeling guilty over nothing!! you didnt lose anything. IF you were to get pregnant this time it wouldnt have been anything until a month or so later. Do you feel guilty about using a condom too?? because thats just preventing a pregnancy as well, its the same thing!!! Dont read these anti abortion hippies info. most of them dont realise, what situation your in. Im confused if your trying to concieve why would you take it????? No body thinks the morning after pill is bad!! its a great thing if your not ready. I just dont get if your TTC why would you use a condom then take the morning after pill? your obviously not TTC at all. i think you want to get pregnant and using the morning after pill is bad is just an excuse!! ok so really theres no problem then forget about it and concentrate on making your baby!! good luck xx
2016-05-23 05:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe people can like being around you more when your happy without it having to do with their self-image. for some people, being around happy people and their current view on things, or their ideas on how to have fun, ect, can just be more fun than being around someone sad, as sad people are often focussed on a single issue or set of issues, eg., the reason that they r sad. i'm not, however, saying this means they should ignore you when you are in a bad mood. everyone has bad days and should deserve to be comforted.
2006-12-18 13:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by redundantredundancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have feel bad about certain things at certain time at certain place. The feeling of guilty arise when you think that you had done something really horrible or bad towards something or someone. Between feeling sad and upset I don't see much of the difference as at both condition you'll experience a sense of downment in your internal emotion.
2006-12-18 13:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are describing mood swings from depressed to hypo-manic. You may wish to talk to a counselor if it is interfering with your life.
2006-12-18 13:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋