A cpl of months ago I began school & met w/my financial advisor. We hit it off well from t/beginning, & after a few visits he began to call me & taking me out of class often. I like t/guy, but t/thing is I don't know what he wants from me exactly. I know he's divorced & has a daughter, or so he SAID. This one day after I left his office he took me downstairs and surprised me w/ a kiss before leaving. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed it & has become a usual thing right after I leave his office (under t/stairs, don't exactly know why) NOW I'm confused & a bit upset. I feel as if he's using me, but he doesn't seem like t/type. One night (as silly as it sounds) I asked God to give me a sign & help me turn to t/right direction, & dreamt that he was getting married & I was invited, I sat in t/last pewter alone, w/a baby in my arms & crying my eyes off. It upset me a bit, but it just gave me t/impression that I need to distance myself from him, but it's hard!.. Any suggestions as on what to do?
2006-12-18 13:18:21 · 21 answers · asked by ☆Karma☆ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry bout not stating ages, I'm 19 and he's 26...
2006-12-18 13:23:11 · update #1
Not to be a skeptic, because these things do occasionally work out for the good, but most likely not, hon.
You are probably not the first student he has done this with if he was willing to do this so soon and on the school property. I would probably think differently if it didn't go down like it did. If he would have said, hey, I like you, let's go out sometime-I would be better able to believe he had a genuine interest in YOU.
He will keep trying to see how far he can take it-some guys just get off on stuff like that. But he will take it as far as he can get and as long as it's still fun, and then you will be the one who is hurt and confused when he loses interest in it. Right now it's exciting, an adrenaline rush, something he's getting away with. But trust me-at the first sign of emotional attachment he will back off and act as if nothing ever happened.
By the way, the fact that he has shown so much "interest" and never asked to take it OUTSIDE of school would make me wonder if he wasn't still married, or atleast has a serious girlfriend. Best of luck to you, hon, but my advice is to get out before you get your feelings hurt. Listen to that dream-you asked for the sign. I know it's hard, because you sound like you already like him, or atleast the attention from him. But down the road you will only be saving yourself from a hard time. Better to hurt a little now than alot later.
2006-12-18 13:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woah... hes 26 dude and hes married... man stay away from the dude cuz 1. he saids divorced and has a daughter 2. he older too 3. even u asked god for a sign..... isnt that good enough... i think hes just tryin to get something from you..... he doesnt want an relationship he just wants an affair... but if u r really sure then go talk with his wife.... because things can get really ugly if u were the third person...... c wat i mean...... u should report him man.... but hope everytime works out for u good luck ^_^ trust ur guts on this one dear....... it might be the best 4 u, it will be too late to regret anything ....... dude he interferin with ur studies too some financial advisor he is.... beside y is he kissin u under the stairs y not outside or anythin huh.... ppl r nvr wat dey look like.... y do u think so many ppl get hurt.....
2006-12-18 13:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by lito-azndr3am3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy and you think he's right for you,then just tell him the truth.Even if it's hard.First thing's first,you have to know more about him.The most important thing in a relationship is trust.If you think he's using you,then walk away slowly and don't date him anymore.The longer you feel umcomfortable about you and him,the more sticky the situation gets.Do what you want to do.Do what your heart is telling you to do.This is just advice.God will help you through ypur problems.But if you had that dream,then you'll probably wanna dump him.We're talking 7 years of age difference.Hope it all works out.Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 13:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It stops there. From reading this there isn't enough overall chemistry to pursue this any further. I'm sure there's someone out there that you would click more with and feel 100% comfortable with and see possibly long term. It's best to tone this down before serious emotions become involved. Then it gets hard and complicated and you don't need that kind of distraction at school. You can do this!!
2006-12-18 13:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude sounds a little creepy to me. Why's he gotta take you under the stairs to kiss you? He's obviously hiding his behavior. There could be lots of reasons for this, none of them good. A normal guy would've just asked you out. He's either married, involved w/other(s), not allowed to date students, or just plain weird. Ask him why he's never asked you out. Then, if you're really interested in him, get his phone number and address. He shouldn't have a problem with this unless he's hiding something.
2006-12-18 13:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sam C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You prayed to God and got a reply, This means God is listening to you And talking to you as well. Have you asked your Father how to proceed from here? I have had dreams of this nature (not the same situation, mind you) I have never regeted following God's leading. Pray and Read your bible and Daily.
If this man is using you then God will protect and provide the escape. But remember flee sexual temptation. Humans don't have what it take to stand against their own sex drive when it is put into motion. So put your feet into motion instead.
2006-12-18 13:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by alanpendragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should distance your self from this person. First of all he is violating the school rules and the law. Do you want to get tangled up with a person with low Morales? I don't think so . So leave the man alone before you do end up going to his wedding with a baby in your arms.
2006-12-18 13:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut, if you feel like you need to distance yourself from him, do that. It sounds like you're not too sure you believe what he says so if something is holding you back, don't go against that. If it turns out he's being honest, you can always go back and pursue something with him. I'm assuming you're in college and this guy is older. Do you really want to get with someone with baggage? Plus, it's a bit skeevy that he's trying to get with a student.
2006-12-18 13:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuo don't say what grade you ar ein but unless you are in college he is a pedophile and should be reported immediately. Allowing people like him to flirt with you is how pedophiles and other sex ofenders to operate in schools and neioghborhoods.
Notifly your parents and the school or you are in for trouble. Beleive me it will not be just harmless kisses forever , soon he'll wan tmore and could ruien your life and lives of others.
2006-12-18 13:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked God for a sign and you got one...a very clear one. Follow your instincts, they are right most of the time. Besides, nothing can go wrong by backing away and a lot could go wrong by staying, especially since you are feeling uncomfortable with the situation.
2006-12-18 13:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋