What are some tricks you guys do to increase your confidence? Watch a movie with someone who is confident in it? Watch someone you know be confident?
2006-12-18 13:16:34 · 6 answers · asked by Greg S 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Start by really listening to your internal dialogue. Do you say negative things to yourself? eg (I'm stupid, I'm worthless.. ) If you do have negative self talk, you need to address each bad comment as it arises. When you say something mean to yourself, correct it immediately, out loud *if you can*. For instance, if you make a mistake and reflexively think "I always screw up", correct it immediately but thinking/saying that you sometimes make mistakes, but you are good at many things". It may seem lame, but it works over time. Low self esteem often has its roots in negative self talk.
2006-12-18 13:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by brandihoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1)Nothing of value is ever built overnight. This is so you won't cut yourselves down too much when you fail in your attempts. Not cutting yourself down will help to bring back the aliveness to begin again.
2)you have a few good 'tricks' yourself. work on those
3) The 'space' within yourself that's filled with non confidence has to find a place to unload. Do whatever you can to get it off your system. When you are empty of that, you are better able to fill it with mindful, thoughtful, confident thoughts and behaviors. Feelings, whatever they are, cannot be 'fixed', nor rationalised. Just acknowledge them and they will pass. When you have acknowledge them, you will find it less troublesome in coping.
4)Wholistic health is mind, body, and spirit. Prayer works, but perhaps for you, it's not the time to just sit and pray. Action, mental or otherwise, can be considered prayer in action. Develop perspective, and never allow your body to remain so still, you get loaded down with weight, this is not to be justified as meditiative state of being!
5)When you have developed an equilibrium in mind and body, you are then able to respond appropriately, not react to things in the environment. You will have the ability to allow random stimuli to be filtered out and allow only beneficial material to enter your mind to be processed for further benefit.
6) The ultimate in character growth is not sacrifice, but a 'knowing', that the 'real' test comes when you are seemingly caught in a situation where there is no way out (eg, how do you explain how some babies or adults were saved in the tsunami?). I have yet to find myself able to cope with how I might respond when placed under intense stress of this nature. It's just me and God. I leave you to find your own answers here....
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2006-12-18 21:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the television, video games, and computer and practice interacting with the real world. There is no substitute for experience to develop confidence.
2006-12-18 21:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hang out with people who are confident! Not arrogant, and make you feel up to parr, and good looking, smart whatever you feel insecure with.
2006-12-18 21:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Britterrsssss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and do something challenging, start with working out.
When you set a goal and you achieve it ,what could be better.
2006-12-18 21:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by thresher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u take a risk
2006-12-18 21:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by katie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋