Does pre-nuptial agreement basically means you do not have confidence in the marriage ?

Question

Does such pre nuptial agreement show from the beginning that you do not trust your partner ? Show that you already make room for your marriage to fail ?

Answer 1

I've always thought that about pre-nuptial agreements. It's like you're planning for the divorce before you even walk down the aisle. Totally unromantic.

Answer 2

Absolutely not!! It is protection for you and your spouse especially if one or even both of you have money or holdings coming into a marriage. In a pre-nup you can put clauses stating how much one or the other will get if the marriage doesn't work out, that way no one feels cheated either way. It doesn't mean you are entering into an already failed marriage.

Answer 3

A pre-nup does not mean that that you don't trust the person that you are about to merry. A pre-nup is form of protecting yourself. because there is a lot of people out there who put on really good front and then in the end you are the one left with nothing. If you explain to the person that you are willing to share your life with them (even the money ) and that if for some reason the marriage does not work out that you are only protecing your self. they should understand and except the pre-nup

Answer 4

Just being safe and looking out for yourself. If it is fair then it will allow a reasonable settlement. If it is not a fair one then it will not. I worked hard for what I have and if something happens then you lose everything because the other half wants more than a decient settlement someone can get hurt. It is hard to go from owning a lot to working 2 jobs to get by because she got the kids 3 houses 2 cars and you owe alamony and child support and she thinks since you picked up a second job she deserves more support.

Answer 5

It does not mean that at all. It means they might be unsure of your intentions to enter the marriage. If money isn't the issue, why would you have a problem with a pre nuptial?

Answer 6

I used to think that, but then I read an article about a couple who got one, and they put forth a pretty good argument, saying: nobody can tell what can happen in life or in a relationship, and they wanted to decide what was fair while they still loved eachother, instead of if it didn't work out.

Now, I think it is a good idea. It has to do with being fair at the start, not bitter at the finish.

Answer 7

As 1 answer stated, divorces are commonplace... although that doesn't mean that you don't trust your marriage. It shows me that you might not trust Marriage in general. This is possibly caused by the numbness of divorce today.

Answer 8

you never know what will happen in a marraige. One day, you and your husband could be chugging along, you popping out kids until he gets a boy and then BAM he leaves you and four kids. Happened to my sister-in-law. She worked and had assests before marraige, however, she became a full time mom. Her assests actually decreased while his increased. She has a better shot of landing on her feet if she gets half.

Bottom line, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I feel it's a show of a lack of faith. If you don't trust 'em enough to give 'em half...even if it's a half a billion, then you have no business getting married to 'em.

Answer 9

Yes. Marriage is a total self-giving. If you're putting your heart in someone else's hands, it shouldn't be a big deal to do it with your bank account.

Answer 10

No, what it means is that One or both of you worked hard for your money and assets . and don't want to have to share it with the other person if you get divorced later.And in reality , my husband and I have also decided how we would manage our assets if we did ever get divorced. It's just easier to think rationally when your happy. because in a divorce you get bitter and irrational.