Well i dont know what to do, I know she loves me and i also know i love her but she needs to sort her 1st marriage out and i dont know if i can wait.
I need her so bad it is painfull
2006-12-18 12:58:44 · 7 answers · asked by irishson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is a very tricky thing...maybe you both need to heal many things and SORT OUT many issues from her previous marriage before you can actually think of getting married again.I have been divorced for over 4 years now and it's still difficult for me to think of living permanently with my present partner, whom I love. You need to give her TIME and space of her own..if you really love her. My partner has been waiting for me for over 3 years and that is real commitment. If you want to have a spouse again , be patient or adding too much pressure will only scare her away.
2006-12-18 13:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by snglmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should relax and give her the time/space she needs to sort things out. A person who has had a bad experience with their first marriage is going to be hesitant about taking the plunge again. Show her you care and that she can trust you by being patient. Besides, if you rush her you are hurting your chances for a happy marriage.
2006-12-18 13:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not the answer you wanted is it? You need to realize she's probably pretty smart to say that though because about the last thing either of you need is for her to get into a marriage carrying baggage from the last one. You'll both very likely regret that. If you can't wait, you can't wait. That's not what you want to hear. You probably want suggestions on how to convince her to say yes. That's not a smart thing to do.
2006-12-18 13:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad choice. You are asking a married woman to marry you. Wake up man . Trying to steal someone else's wife. You can not get away with it. How would you feel if you marry her and then another guy try to wreck your marriage and and your wife run away with him? Will that be P A I N F U L as well? Fair enough?
Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you.
2006-12-18 13:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a very smart person. Sometimes we need to resolve our past before we can step into our future. Don't try to pressure her into something she is not ready for. If you really love her you can be patient and wait for her. It is hard but love can pull you through.
2006-12-18 13:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Wenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted to discuss it with someone else, maybe her friends. Hope your ok with that. Maybe she just wanted some thinking time and wanted to see if it was the RIGHT thing to do. Don't be offended, she just doesn't know yet. Don't be surprised if she says "NO", Thats probably why she was going to think about it, GOOD DAY and GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-18 13:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up, dude. Give the lady some room to breathe.... you'll be okay.
2006-12-18 13:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋