my wife say,s it,s normal behaveior for girl,s now. but i think i should be her father and put my foot down and, !!exactly and do what, my girl is a sweet emotional girl, growing up , so dont be hard !
2006-12-18 12:38:37 · 40 answers · asked by belter777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is a smart 19 teen
2006-12-18 12:46:32 · update #1
Well you should set some limits, but as long as she's responsible (mostly) don't be too hard on her. As for drinking, well she should know how alcohol affects her body before she gets out into the real world and makes a fool of herself, but remind her of how it's ilegal until you're 21 and that she could die. Yes, you should talk to her, set a curfew, maybe punish her occasionally, but don't be to hard on her! Don't be cruel...believe me, no teenage girl (i'm assuming she's teenage?) wants to stay home with her parents every night...well, if she's not doing drugs, pregnant, or getting arrested, then you don't have a serious problem. It's true that her behavior is normal for girls these days...everyone does some things they're not proud of.
2006-12-18 12:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by blankstares 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids go off the rails at some point. They go through phases of lying, drinking because their mates do, staying out late because they want a social life. Its their way of growing up. It could be her way of starting to get some independance. Don't tell her what she can and can't do. it will make her disobey and do things all the more, only out of spite. I'm assuming she's a teenage girl, but they get bored of that phase after a while and they'll either calm down or change what they're doing completely
2006-12-18 12:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by x_Little_Miss_Kitty_x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter will do what she wants to when she wants to, it is normal behavior. Don't you remember what it was like to be her age?! You can punish her, but that's a part of life that every teenager goes through. I am not saying do nothing, you do need to put your foot down (since she does live under your roof), but grounding her for life will just make her rebel more. Lay down some ground rules, but let her express her opinion (whether you like it or not, hear her out), then tell her your opinion and go from there. Good luck!
2006-12-18 12:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by melody g 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal. I know you said don't be hard but..... No kid of mine would do this.Lies & drinking ??? She needs to learn a lesson while growing up be she's grown up.If she wants to find a decent man someday something will have to change. I'm 43 & single. Looking for a gal who don't lie or drink (with breathing probs. prefer a non-smoker). I'm not saying she's not sweet,emotional. There just happen to be a couple flaws (we all have our flaws).There are people who can help, I don't necassirly mean counsiling. Just people (i.e. friends,ect). Some of with disorders like epilepsy (like myself), we were chosen for some special purpose. Maybe that's one of the reasons I was chosen, to help others like that. Hope you have good luck.
2006-12-18 13:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by kb9kbu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, How old is she? Perhaps, from my point of view meanwhile my daughter is living in my house she has to follow my rules and she most has a proper behavior. I'll do everything is on my hands to get her a better life, but I won't waste mine if she wants to mess with her life. If she is 18 or older is time for her to be responsible for her acts and is time for her to learn how to be good part of the society, not another debris. If my daughter can't understand that, with all the sadness of my heart I rather tell her to look up for her self, if she's not able to do that it doesn't matter how many times I told her, because at the end she's the one who has to make a decision for her own life, not me, but in the processes I can't let her to take us, my wife and me, down with her. The years of sacrifice went over and isn't fair for me to waste my last years in painfulness because of her. Seat sown and talk to her, don't be to soft is time for her to open her eyes and to see the things as they really are, your wife most support your decision and to stand by your side in this, in a long term it will be the best for her future. If she continues like this, What does she gonna do tomorrow when daddy and mommy aren't around no more? Talk to her and set everything on the table. May be this is your last chance, if not the best one, to teach her the best lesson of her life. Good lock!!
2006-12-18 12:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Javy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is she?
If she is younger than 21 she should NOT be drinking but you can't do anything about it if she is 18.
If she is under 18 make her stay at home instead of going out. You should not allow your child to act like that when she is that young.
2006-12-18 12:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 03:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by endicott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down. she may threaten to run away from home, etc. all girls don't act like that. you may need to look outside your thoughts that she is a sweet emotional girl and do some "tough love" on this situation.
she may wind up pregnant, or dead if you don't do something. she needs to be grounded and your wife needs to be on board with the parenting partnership.
2006-12-18 12:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Curious_One 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would put my foot down, but how old is your daughter? If she's over 18 she has a right to do what she wants. However, that doesn't stop you from letting her know how what she is doing is hurting you & herself. Plus, if she still lives under your roof, it doesn't matter how old she is you have a right to put your foot down~
2006-12-18 12:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
son, you gotta stop that behavior right now before she gets into trouble you can't fix. take her car keys and tell her if she wants to hang out with her friends, she can do it at home. let her have the basement or the living room to herself, just go upstairs or something, but don't leave the house. knowing you are there will deter bad behavior. I mean it. she'll hate you but you will be helping her in the long run.
2006-12-18 12:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋