I am tired of not having privacy . I cant do anything with out my family comin git, heck I cant even take a bath with out some one coming in. I have my 'own' room but just still my brothers are always in it, my mom gets clothes from there, and I cant lock my door because my mom wont let me. I dont like to get dressed in the bathroom because they come in and make some excuse to get somethign and I always feel liek they are lookign at me but now my light doesnt work and so I cant close my door and I always got dressed in my room cause I could lock the door till I was done getting dressed (aleast under clothing) and then open it if I want to. I dont like any one seeing my body and I like to have my room to myself with out my brothers coming in dancing buttnaked too songs. What should I do?
2006-12-18 12:33:40 · 12 answers · asked by --; cookie. 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Window light as in sunlight when I am at school to 2 hour after I come back but in that time I am with my baby bro...
2006-12-18 12:41:13 · update #1
No offence but I am thirteen and I am not sure of how you move with diddly squat of a job..sorry i love saying that....
2006-12-18 12:42:32 · update #2
Uh, first get that light fixed. you could get a lamp or something. Do you have any window light?
2006-12-18 12:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is there no place in your house with a lock? Can't you get dressed in a bathroom or something? And as for your room, get this- I am 14 and I share a room with 6 younger brothers. I just get dressed quickly and quietly in a corner- I've gotten used to it, and you will to. Look at it this way- there are families who can't even afford separate rooms. They do absolutely everything in one room. No privicy there! You should be thankful.
2006-12-18 13:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by pianoman.jeremy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
geez, i don't blame you. this is an issue that should've been taken care of by your parents a long time ago...maybe they don't see a problem with it, for themselves, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve your right to privacy. you need to talk to your mom privately and tell her exactly how you feel...write it all down and practice what you want to say...do not get whiny and dramatic, or you will lose this battle. ask for a lock or latch on your door and the bathroom door. ask your mom set some rules and boundaries about everyone entering your room without your permission...your brothers should not be running around naked in your room. if your mom gives you a problem with what you've asked, ask her what her suggestions are in solving this issue...how would she deal with what you're going through if she were in your position. if she teases you or doesn't listen, write her a letter, restating what you would like to have happen, and how important it is to you. keep on asking in different ways, until this is resolved. when you get what you're asking for, show your family how much you appreciate them listening to you and respecting your privacy. do an extra chore, etc. it goes a long way in getting what you want the next time around. i allowed my kids their privacy from the time they were very young, and they were taught to have respect for their siblings privacy too. they grew up to be very respectful adults. very best of luck to you!!
2006-12-18 12:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to your privacy when you are getting dressed or taking a bath. If your parents will not listen to you and fix things for you, then go to the counsellor at school and tell them what is going on and ask them to talk to your parents on your behalf. If this does not work, or if you prefer and you feel that you are being abused as a result of this, you can call the child abuse hotline free of charge: The toll-free number is: 1-800-4-A-CHILD? (1-800-422-4453)
2006-12-18 12:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by wize2day 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm almost 20 years old and my parents are very similar to what you have described. I still have very little privacy but have learned to just deal with or try to ignore it and get my own place as soon as I finish up with college..
2006-12-19 05:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could call girls and boys town at 1-800-448-3000. this is a national teen help hotline and you might get better answers from them.
2006-12-18 15:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a diary. Write down all your personal thoughts and frustrations. It really helps. Oh yea, and hide it somewhere no one would ever think to look.
2006-12-18 12:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by K 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
talk to you mom tell her that you don't like it when your brothers are walking in on you and that you need your privacy when getting dress. tell your brothers to stop it.
2006-12-18 12:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom about it... tell her you're becoming a woman and need more privacy than that
2006-12-18 16:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront your parents. like, really. u are growing up and need ur own privacy. lay down the law and tell them what u want and what's urs!
2006-12-18 12:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by H A N N A H(: 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋