he told me he had a dream he slept with his friends girlfriend. the whole time he was telling himself not to do it. he has never cheated on me and we are plainning on getting married. when he told me about his dream i wasn't mad just more hurt. He used to dream about me.
2006-12-18 12:05:13 · 23 answers · asked by nessa c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry your feelings are hurt, but I really wouldn't be mad at him, it was just a dream. and we've all had some crazy ones! me included! I'll tell you one of the goofiest ones, I shouldn't, but I will, since you need some cheering up.
I dreamed I was one of hugh heffners girlfriends, and me and hef were making out! and no I'm not kidding! and that's all the information you need to know!
Hope you feel better now!!
2006-12-18 12:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He can not control his unconscious mind. These dreams could very well be misplaced. He has anxiety about getting married. Anxiety about anything. Then on top of that, he has curiosities. The thing that is interesting is that he told you.
I'm sure he was probably as confused as you were. However, you should at least smack him in the back of the head and call him stupid for telling you -- just once!
But don't be mad...I'm sure he hasn't told you all the sordid details of all the dreams he has EVER had and most of the HOT ones probably included you doing some things that he probably hasn't even asked you to do yet. :-)
Hang in there!
2006-12-18 12:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I am sure he still does dream about you. How many times have you dreamt of someone other than hum??? Men tend to think about sex more frequently than women do. I also know that there is no way you can say you have never dreamt of another man, regardless of the circumstances in the dream. Therefore, it is PERFECTLY normal that he has dreamt of another woman. He will again, just as you have dreamt of other people. A males dreams just might be more likely to be sexually oriented is all. Either way, I assure you that there is nothing to worry about.
2006-12-18 12:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be mad at him, afterall if you were, he would just learn not to be so honest to you in the future and you don;t want that, I'm sure you are hurt, I would be too, but it is just his subconsious mind -This dream seems to be based upon anxiety, he doesnt feel he is control of his life, his choices. His dream is only his subconsious minding doing what it does best-making us wonder if we're crazy ;) Has he been stressed out lately? Be loving with him, comfort him, sounds like he is just stressed out, the fact that you told you about this so openly shows alot-he loves you, love him back :) he'll spend many nights dreaming about you I'm sure :)
2006-12-18 12:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldnt be mad OR hurt. You cannot control your dreams. Haven't you every had a nightmare? Dreams are not literal.
You should feel glad that he feels so close to you that he actually tells you about it.
2006-12-18 12:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought be thrilled that he loves and trusts you enough to tell you about the dream!
If you aren't going through some sort of internal process that makes you think about the different life you will be leading when you are married, particularly the monogamy bit, you probably should. I'll bet it's just his subconscious working through this sort of stuff.
2006-12-18 12:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by poptop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Dream Police.
2006-12-18 12:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can't control what he dreams. Believe me if we should get mad at what our partners dream, my boyfriend and I would be mad at each other all the time for things we can not control.
2006-12-18 12:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. Don't let a silly dream cause problems for you guys. A dream is a dream, focus on reality.
2006-12-18 12:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of it as just a dream, and that's all. He didn't cheat on you and he's told you while awake that he would never do it, so it didn't mean anything.
2006-12-18 12:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋