I have a really good friend. We often spend weekends together staying at each other's house. This past weekend he said something that surprised me. He wants to have sex with me. I don't know what to do. He says he thinks he's gay and wants to try it with someone he trust. He wants to give oral sex to me and maybe receive anal. I've been thinking about it ever since he asked. I'm not sucking him or taking it in the butt. So, should I do it and if I do, does it make me gay?
2006-12-18 11:54:08 · 16 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Yep, you are gay.
2006-12-18 11:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Really it 's up to you. Don't let anyone tell you any different. These thigs are done in secrecy and private. You should be honored that your "friend" trusts you and that he has open to you and you alone. (hopefully). But the truth of the matter is the fact that will you be honest with him when the time comes? And after all the weekends you two have been spending together , you haven't noticed anything out of the ordinary?? c'mon. second looks, feelings, mutual brief touching, foreplay play?? No? Well, you are either naive or an innocent but be it as it may, be truthful about it and come clean (no pun intended). Let him knw what you feel and are going through. No one needs to know after that. Be your own person and make your own decision. This will make you or break you and an experience you take with you to go through life the knowing or not knowing. Just don't fret over it.
2006-12-19 06:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by xandros 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,do what you want to do,no one can tell you to choose to do it,or not.Ultimately you have to be the one who decides.If you do decide to do so,you will know if you prefer men over women.No one can say you are "Gay" or not.You have the right to experiment,but make sure you protect yourself.Also,even that way you can recieve an std.Now,having said that,you must look at this from each and every angle.Will this effect your friendship?Now,if his friendship is important to you,i think you should consider whether or not you are willing to put that on the line.Intercourse has emotional attachments,so...you must decide.It may be a hard decision for you,but dont force yourself into doing anything you are uncomfortable with,i am sure your friend wouldnt want that either.If you infact prefer that to be your sexuality,there isnt anything wrong with you.If you decide it isnt for you,then that is ok too.You need to decide for yourself.Also,if you decide to do that,you must make sure he knows that you are sure about it,and allow him to know that it is a one time thing(Unless you decide you enjoy it).This is where the whole putting your friendship on the line thing comes in.Just be careful and protect yourself that is important,extremely important.You both should take into consideration that this is a big step and its important.You are simply curious about your sexuality,and experimenting isnt a bad thing as long as you both protect yourselves.Good luck hun,and have a good night.
2006-12-18 20:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not interested and maybe try to help him. No it doesnt make u gay but he will keep wanting it.hire him a stripper(female) or take him to a strip joint. Try to get him off u and on to girls
2006-12-18 20:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by SamH 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not do it. The possibility of getting hurt or some sexually transmitted disease is too great.
Tell him you don't swing that way, but you are flattered that he thought of you. Then jokingly tell him if he asks again, you're going to break his nose.
2006-12-18 21:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have strong romantic and/or sexual feelings for a person, a good rule of thumb is to not get into sexual relations with them.
2006-12-18 20:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really up to you,dont do anything your not comfortable with,we all experiment at one time,I dont think it makes you gay ur just experimenting.
2006-12-18 20:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by mybabylove87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it if you want. it does not make you gay, just curious, but personally, i wouldn't go there
2006-12-18 19:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Konrad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eew. That's wrong. And yes. It makes you VERY GAY or at least bisexual...
2006-12-18 22:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by kagome_kayazikyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't, but a person should do whatever he or she feels.
2006-12-18 19:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol.
Man, do it.
We all experiment at some time or another.
Kill him after though, incase he tells anyone.
Lol again!!
2006-12-18 19:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋