im anm so confused.im really worried if im attracted to the same sex is there any way you can tell for sure?

Answer 1

It's normal to think about the same sex to evaluate your sexuality, but just because you think about girls doesn't mean your bisexual or gay, its how you respond to those thoughts that determine your sexual tendencies. When you think about guys or girls which one gets you more sexually excited? Which one do you want to see naked and to see you naked? Which one do you want to hug, kiss, and hold hands with? Which one do you want to give you orgasms and which one do you want to pleasure?

-- If you NEVER think about the SAME sex for any of these things, then your straight.

-- If you NEVER think about the OPPOSITE sex for any of these things, then you're gay.

These extremes are artificial concepts, realistically no one is 100% straight or 100% gay, at most its 99.99%, there's always the occational thought (0.01% of the time) about reversing their sexuality, briefly entertaining the thought, and become arroused by it.

-- If you think about the SAME sex 0.01-30% of the time for these things, you fall somewhere into the "straight" range of sexuality.

-- If you think about the SAME sex 31-70% of the time for these things, you fall somewhere into the "bisexual" range of sexuality.

-- If you think about the SAME sex 71-99.99% of the time for these things, you fall somewhere in the "gay" range of sexuality.

There's a more detailed scale I go by, but I used a VERY GENERAL version of the scale so you wouldn't get more confused. I think most would agree with this very general scale, but have their own personal "detailed" scales of sexuality that would disagree with my "detailed" scale.

I think your obsessed with your sexuallity because of the people around you. My guess, you come from a religious family (or have a religious background) and your friends are also from similar backgrounds and thats why you're "worried" about your sexuality, because you're afraid they'll turn on you if you're not straight.

It will take years for you to sort through your sexuality, and you will never be happy pretending to be something your not. Whether its people expecting you to be straight or people trying to tell you that you're gay, anyone that tries to label you (or tell you what you are) is just plain wrong. I'm NOT trying to tell you what your sexuallity is (I don't know you, and I can't read your mind), I can only provided you with general guidlines. The ONLY one that can define your sexuality and determine who you can love is YOU... no one else.

By the way, I'm straight, in case you were wondering. I don't have an agenda to push any specific sexuality on anyone. I try to keep an open mind and except people for who they are reguardless of their sexuallity. I just try to offer advice to help people figure things out. Hopefully, this will help you.

Answer 2

Look... its natural for women to be attracted to other women.

This is because women are sensual creatures. We look pretty and smell pretty and act more refined then men.

So it is very logical because we are this way that we might also be attracted to the same. We are the more appealing of the two genders.

The thing that sets you apart from animals though is that you have a mind that tells you " sex w/ the same sex isn't natural for humans."

So there's nothing wrong with feeling that way but, in my opinion, you know you shouldnt act on it.

Cause seriously, if we're as wonderful as we think we are sometimes, God wouldn't have needed to make men. But he did. Therefore the man/woman union is normal and natural. The woman/woman thing is not.

Give a relationship w/ a guy a try before you switch teams. You will find that although men may not be the daintiest at times(lol!) there are reasons we were given men as a partner. And a women will not be able to provide you with these things.

With that being said, I have lesbian friends who I adore and would never look down upon them for their life choices.

Answer 3

What you're talking about isn't confusion. You are who you are. Our society puts so many narrow limitations on orientation and gender identity. YOU get to decide what you want to call yourself. It's probably better not to call yourself anything at all.

Also if you are attracted to the same sex it's nothing at all to worry about, not like your alone! You always have internet pals if there isnt' anybody you can find in real life...

However if you're around homophobic people who are going to make your life miserable, it could be cause for a concern...but sometimes people can surprise you with their open-mindedness.

Answer 4

if you want to have sex with members of the same sex, then you're most likely gay. its nothing to be worried about. you'll suffer more in the end if you run away from who you are your whole life.

Answer 5

Think about doing it with a female partner. How does it make you feel? If it turns you on, maybe you are.
Good luck, whatever you decide!

Answer 6

It is easy to lust after anything and anyone. But you must weigh the consequences of your actions in what will happen to you in the years to come.

Answer 7

Imagine what it is you want for your future. Picture it. Does she fit into the picture? And there you have it! Best wishes.

Answer 8

Talk to someone u know that is BI or LES see if Ur conv. goes any farther!

Answer 9

yeah, if you like wanna ask them out and make out or whatever, then you know for sure, to find out you could go on a date and test things out...see how it goes

Answer 10

heres the rule of thumb about sexuality. If it is even remotely a question/concern you are gay. Its all perception anyways. I think your a dyke and i dont even know you.