I didnt mean to but i liked him andnow im pregnant by him! How do i tell me boyfriend that its not his baby??
2006-12-18 11:44:32 · 34 answers · asked by LOVE 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do it immediately. Waiting this long was bad enough. Sit him down, make sure you won't be disturbed, and begin by telling him about the 'affair'. Move slowly from there if you can.
2006-12-18 11:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Empy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Look at all the instant judges! I'm sure nobody here has ever done anything stupid or based on hormones before, right?
As far as advice, this has several components to it. 1) How do you know who the father is or isn't? 2) If you are certain it wasn't your fiance, is it because you didn't have sex with him? (that will kind of "tell him", I'm afraid, as soon as you start showing). 3) What are your feelings for the best friend, and was this just a one time mistake, or are you still attracted to him. Remember that hormones can make things seem more intense, so don't rush into this one. 4) What do you think is your fiance's likely reaction? Is he a rager? Is he someone who might harm you, himself, or his friend? 5) Do you intend to carry the pregnancy to term?
Because of so many factors, I strongly suggest you talk to a counselor, even if it just means calling a crisis hotline ( I used to work on one, they can be very helpful and can give you low cost or free referrals for ongoing counseling if you need it). You may need to have a neutral third party in the room if you do decide that you are sure it is not the fiance's baby, and if you are going to tell. A counselor can help you do that in the least hurtful way possible. Don't have any illusions-this won't be easy. But it's important for you to have integrity, especially if you are going to become a mommy.
2006-12-18 12:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by A mom 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to go to the father of the baby and tell him you are pregnant by him. Sounds like you are due to break up with your fiance and marry the best friend. I doubt that they will remain freinds. You will not be the first or the last to do what you did. The baby needs its own bio father to raise it as he would do better by it. If you marry your fiance and he finds out its not his baby he is going to take it out on the baby even if he does not intend to. Move on with your life and your relationships. I am old and have seen it to many times. Also worked as a maternity nurse and see it there too.
2006-12-18 11:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you might as well just break up with him. Why even bother with the big issue of telling him? Just break up with him, and cut the tie. No explanation needed. You've already screwed up, and he's most likely going to dump you after you tell him. Why go through the extra pain of giving him all the details? If you do tell, make it short and to the point - I am pregnant by your best friend, our relationship is over, etc. Do it asap, so you're not stressed and he's not thinking everything's great when it REALLY isn't. Good luck.
2006-12-18 11:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... since you seem to enjoy being the center of attention and hurting the people who love you most, why not call Jerry Springer and break it to your fiancee in front of millions of viewers. They might even let the two men hit each other over you. You'd probably enjoy that immensely.
2006-12-18 11:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by wize2day 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He won't be too happy. But you're going to have tell him point blank that you fooled around with his best friend. I'm gonna be honest. I won't be pretty. You will have ruined your bf's friendship and the dude who got you impregnated is gonna look like a total loser for betraying his best friend.
Tell him now. It will only get worse the longer you wait.
2006-12-18 11:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on Jerry Springer!! lol, and then you need to find someone to help you because you shouldnt get married or be a mom... doesnt sound like you are responsible enough to not open your legs to someone other than your future hubby, so what makes you think that you could be a mother.. also.. what the hell do you mean "i didnt mean to"..???
2006-12-18 11:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by me :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to break his heart even more if you wait to do it. You just need to sit down with him and be honest. He's not going to like it but it's what will be the best for you. If you cheated once chances are you will do it again. Most likely you've just lost your fiance and he just lost his best friend.
2006-12-18 11:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a mess huh? You already know there's no easy way to do this. There is no point in anything other than blunt honesty at this point. All the best to you though.
2006-12-18 11:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Maury Povitch.
2006-12-18 11:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by noonee333 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋