why is shin kicking so bad? what people say to me hurts my feelings, can u help? read below to qualify please?

Question

i hate men. so please no male replies. i only trust women because they rule. they do. women care more than men. i got kicked in the shins as a kid, and for some reason like the bruises girls leave as a rememberance. it doesnt hurt and...oh nevermind. i know i will get all kinds of perverts. i wish a female over 18 would reply and help me with this, but i just get people who freak on me and make fun of me. most think i need help. there are many shin kickers out there and love it. why am i cursed with this? i should have said nothing because all i will get is stupid answers and people making fun of me. i hope that this is not ridiculed. i am so sorry i even said anythi

Answer 1

Ok I'm female and over 40...sad but true, you get your shins kicked because those are the people you gravitate too for whatever reason...it may be that you thrive on negative attention..
The only way to fix that is to convince yourself that you deserve better..I used to get kicked alot until I learned the problem was ME, not the kickers.

It's easier to understand if you associate with someone very bad off, like a woman in a physically abusive relationship..after awhile you ask "why is she still putting up with this?!" and then you'll see that you should follow your own advice before you judge others.
Sweet Dreams

Answer 2

You need to choose NOT to become a professional victim.

So you had a rough childhood. You have no excuses to NOT overcome that.

It does not have to define who you choose to become.

Change "I can't" to "I am not willing to". Quit blaming others for your pain. No one is responsible for your feelings or happiness. No one wants that job.

Make some accomplishments and acheivements. It will build you up from the inside out. Master a skill or talent.

Who cares what others do? The 'shin kickers' only seek to bring others down to the level they feel they are at. It is easier that rising to the level they feel others are at.

People project their insecurities on others. If you choose to be a victim, you essentially paint a target on yourself. This is all on you.

I hope no one makes fun of your question because it is a valid one. But you are looking at it all wrong. You are making it all everyone else's fault, when it has more to do with you than you think.

If you want to change the behavior of other people, then you have to change your behavior first. People will automatically respond differently to you. That is all on you.

Give to others what you want for yourself. You go first. All people want from others is respect, appreciation, admiration, and approval. Give that freely and whithout exception or conditions. It will come back.

It feels really good to make someone's day. MAke that your goal, to make at least one person's day. It will fuilfill you.

Take care and hang in there. Have a good holiday!

Answer 3

YOU SHOULDN'T JUDGE ALL MEN BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN PICK ON BY SOME.YOU NEED TO LEARN FROM PASS EXPERIENCE'S.THEY CAN MAKE YOU STRONGER.......BY THE WAY, I DIDN'T SAY HARDER, MEANER, OR CRUEL,JUST STRONGER. DONT BECOME WHAT YOU SAY YOU HATE......SO WITH THAT SAID, ONLY YOU CAN STOP THE PAIN, NO ONE ELSE.....YOU DESIDE WHAT HURTS YOUR FEELING AND CAUSE YOU GRIEF,NO ONE ELSE. STOP BEING A VICTIM. YOU WILL FIND THAT IF YOU DESIDE TO FEEL GOOD ,NO MATTER WHAT,YOU WILL. DONT GIVE PEOPLE THAT MUCH POWER OVER YOU, TO DESIDE HOW YOU FEEL OR ACT..... IF YOU NEED ENCOURAGEMENT , LOOK NO FURTHER THAN THE BIBLE ,IT IS FULL OF PEOPLE WHO WERE TALKED ABOUT,BEATEN,LIED ON,PERSECUTED, ETC....THE ONLY DIFFERENT IS THAT THEY DIDNT GIVE UP AND DID WHAT NEEDED TO BE DONE REGARDLESS OF EVERYONE ELSE....SOME HAD TO CATCH THERE BREATH ,YES, AND THEN CONTINUE ,BUT THEY CONTINUE AND THAT IS WHAT MATTERS...... SORRY MY BROTHER, BUT I NEED TO TELL YOU THIS, LET THE PAIN BUILD IN YOU "CHARACTER"AND STEEL YOU FOR WHATEVER MAY COME......MAYBE TO HELP SOMEONE LIKE YOURSELF,

Answer 4

um confused about the ? but when i was little kicking people people was how we dealed with our problems . i know it was bad . if you didn't like someone you kicked them if you got angrey you kicked them . when your little their isn't alot of upperbody strenghth so kicking was the best wweapon i'm talking elementry here. i kicked alot of people in elemantry especiallly second grade. i wasa one good kicker . i don't remember anyone ever kicking me . you'll be glad i kicked many boys. one of them is still scared of me today and we still hate each others it was areally a epic battle year after year we always got each other back .

Answer 5

i wish you could go into more detail with me, i was made fun of as a child and beat up on also fell free to email me if you mee advice.