2006-12-18 11:40:02 · 58 answers · asked by belter777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You desire to do good, but of course evil is always lurking. There is nothing really wrong with looking at other women unless there is more to it than just that. It's what you do after you look at the other women. Do you think about them in ways that you shouldn't? Sometimes, we want our cake and to eat it too. Then sometimes, things like this are placed in our presence to see if we will be able to pass the test. The test is whether you can remain faithful. Like I stated early, I believe there is nothing wrong with looking. It's what you do after looking.
2006-12-18 12:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you look at other women to see the physical beauty that is in the world around us. It does not mean you love your wife less, you just like to appreciate beauty. Here are a few tips to keep your wife from feeling bad about this habit of yours:
1) Don't look around and stare at other women when you are with your wife. She will feel embarrassed.
2) Don't tell her that the other women are beautiful. She will think you don't like the way she looks.
3) Don't tell her that she would look great wearing something like the women you see. She will think you are fantasizing about them and having her play a part.
4) DO tell her she is the only woman you want to love for the rest of your life.
5) DO let her know that you may like to look at the younger girls, but she has the substance and personality to keep your interest for life.
2006-12-18 11:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a man to not look at someone that is attractive to him takes a huge amount of will power. It is just what we do.
What counts however is what you do about that looking.
Consider it window shopping with no money. You can look but
you can't buy. If your wife is first an foremost in your life looking will not cause a problem. Only when you have problems in your relationship can looking turn into trouble.
So enjoy the look but then go home and give your wife a hug and kiss. You will be fine.
2006-12-18 12:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a man, plain and simple. As long as you dont act on your feelings of adoring other women you are being a normal healthy husband with a great wife. At least you are admitting it and there is no harm in looking.
2006-12-18 11:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women think differently, but essentially underneath the thought processes, we're fundamentally the same. We're curious critters, and we like to see, smell, taste, hear and touch the world around us and learn about the other critters who share the planet with us. I love my husband more than I could ever explain, but I'm still undeniably attracted to other men. It feels great to know other men still find me attractive, and I enjoy making them blush. It's a good feeling knowing you've also given someone else's self-esteem a little boost for the day when you give them an appreciative smile or a wink at the traffic light. No harm. It's all in good fun.
And yes, my husband does the same. I know and fully approve of him flirting with other women. He does the same for me. In fact, we find it a turn-on! A bit like kiss-and-tell. I love it when he tells me about the hot chick at work and how she (totally accidentally!) made sure he saw she was wearing a bright pink thong that day. Of course other women hit on him. He's adorable! lol I know where his head is at, and his heart, so I have no problem at all with him having fun.
2006-12-18 12:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it's perfectly normal. If you didn't look at other woman or notice them then I would say there was something wrong. Your only human. Girls do the same thing. I'm sure your wife is the same way. If she See's a good looking guy walk by I'm sure she'll notice. Its only natural. It doesn't mean she thinks less of of you. Or you think less of her. There are attractive people all around you every where you go. What else are you suppose to do. Close your eyes.
2006-12-18 11:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to look just don't touch! You are a man and men admire the beauty of another woman. You're perfectly normal as long as you don't act out and start screwing around. Take a load off and enjoy the holidays and the women at the malls. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 13:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if all you are doing is looking, it's because you are human and a man! Just because you have a ring now does not mean you cannot appreciate beauty when you see it. Now ogling and being piggish is a bit far and if you are cheating that is a problem, but believe me harmless admiring from afar is not a crime. And I bet your wife does it too, women are just more subtle than men.
2006-12-18 11:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal. hell I think I check out other women just as much as the hubby. lol
maybe more.
theres a difference between looking and touching. You can look and fantasize about other women... its harmless.
AND you can share fantasies and do naughty things with your wife to live the fantasies out.
well, depends on if your wife is into those kinda things.
2006-12-18 14:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal, thats why your wife looks at other men, and has the same feelings you do, with the other women.
What? you thought she didnt?
and she adores them looking at her, probably, moreso, this way round, with women.
The amount of admiring glances, she responds to with a flirty smile, when your not there, you wouldnt believe.
I know you wouldnt, thats why the smug question about your lovely wife, and "your" straying eye...like youve got it all on a plate.
Trust me, you really dont know the half of it, that "girls night out", quiet drink with mate...etc.
2006-12-18 11:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by ben b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋