Do you think it was meant for people to be happy or unhappy? why are so many people lonely and unhappy?

Question

Some people say if I only had all the money I ever needed I would be happy, yet when they find that gold at the end of the rainbow there still not happy what's the problem

People spend millions of dollars in trying to look and stay young and beautiful with the latest trends in beauity still they find no happiness what's the problem?

People spend millions of dollars on psychotherapy and new age treatments to find happiness yet they feel despair and are unahppy why?

What is happiness if not with GOD's complete restoration of the Spirit?

Are you internally happy? or do you just have happy moments?

Answer 1

Sometimes I feel like that too. I think if only I had more money to buy nicer things, I'd be happy.

I doubt it's true.

Usually I'm happy, but there are times I feel down.

Answer 2

I think that life is a series of ups and downs and that eternal happiness, at least during our life on Earth, is not realistic. I strive for contentment and a major part of that involves maintaining effective coping skills. Most of my coping skills are related to what I am doing and what I am thinking. Both are choices. I can choose to sit in my home and stew by myself about a problem or I can acknowledge emotional discomfort and do something like have coffee with a friend or go on a long run. Similarly, I can perseverate on the notion that my situation is a catastrophy or that nobody loves me or I can more realistically tell myself that while my situation is bad it is also temporary and that I do have options.

I think that so many people in our culture are unhappy because they are preoccupied with the idea that they should never be unhappy. Our culture of instant gratification and superifical media personalities who parade their romances and children-as-accessories in front of our eyes everyday, I believe, simply reinforces the notion when bad things happen they shouldn't really feel bad. Instead of viewing unhappiness as a feeling that could be telling us we need to do something different many people simply run from it and learn nothing.

Answer 3

hahahaha.... I was thinking, 'wow! this is a really good question' until I saw the last 2 lines.

I have internal happiness without 'GOD's complete restoration' of anything.

The problem with people who search for happiness through money: Money is not something that makes your life easier... it just changes the type of problems you have. People lose sight of the fact that EVERYONE has problems.

The problem with people who search for happiness through cosmetic surgery and beauty products: They are chasing something that is intended to pass out of your life. It's like continually trying to rebuild a house while it's burning. Silly. People forget that being old does not mean being ugly. Or that being 'ugly' doesn't mean being unhappy or worth less than the 'pretty people'.

The problem with people seeking happiness through psychotherapy: Nothing... as long as they don't continuously do it (become dependant upon it) instead of learning from it how to deal with their own problems. If there was a problem (within Christianity) with psychotherapy, why would they teach it at seminary schools accross the nation?

The problem with all of them: They are searching for happiness externally.. nothing will magically make you happy if you are not happy with yourself. People need to do things that make them happy instead of just expecting the things they do to make them happy. Happiness is not granted, it is earned and worked for. Even if being a Christian makes you happy, it's because you have worked towards a goal to the best of your ability.


THE PROBLEM WITH THIS QUESTION: It's a manipulation... trying to make people think that because they might not be happy at the moment that something is wrong with them that only god can fix. It's completely loaded with crap analagies. And the asker doesn't really want answers... just a soap box on which to stand to make a point.

Answer 4

Lose it all?
So maybe you can remember yourself
Can't keep believing
We're only deceiving ourselves
And I'm sick of the lie
And you're too late

Couldn't take the blame
Sick with shame
Must be exhausting to lose your own game
Selfishly hated
No wonder you're jaded
You can't play the victim this time
And you're too late

Answer 5

there is no one in the world is happy for ever or sad for ever...there gonna be happy time and sad time coz if u dont taste the saddness u won't value the happinness besides that's why it calls life not heaven

Answer 6

meh, people are fickle and never pleased. i reckon if they concentrated more on others then they would not care so much about just them. soke forget you just can't please every one and that no one's perfect. i'm so so but pretty cool when i've got other to hang around with and share my life with.

Answer 7

people are meant to be mostly happy. People with reasonable expectations who work hard and support their friends and community will be happy most of the time.

Some unhappy is required for people to be motivated, and it usually shows up when a person should be motivated to make changes in their lives. This sort of unhappiness is temporary, useful and good. It leads to effort and accomplishment.

Some suffering is inevitable, we get hurt and/or sick, people we love die or leave and we mourn - this is also necessary time to heal, and although not pleasant, it is good. People get sick, leave and die. It is foolish to expect that we should be free of experiencing that at some times.

Much unhappiness is caused by wrong thinking, and this is not useful unhappiness unless it motivates change. Our society encourages wrong thinking, so most people do not use this kind of unhappy as motivation for change - they think they are wrong not to be happy when they are 'supposed to be happy' because they have all that our society values. They think that they are bad people and should be unhappy if they do not have all that our society values - aren't we all equally free to go get these things our society values? Our society tells us we are, but really we are not. The values of our society cause unhappiness because they are relative. If only the people who are above average in posessions or accomplishment are allowed to be happy, then half of the people must always remain unhappy, since average is the middle, only half can be above it. It is foolish to resent the people better off than you are, because they will always be there to resent, and 'make you unhappy'.

Right values can result in being mostly happy. If you value being of use to others, you can always be of use to others, and therefore be happy. Even babies and the disabled elderly have some use to people. People can learn many valuable personal traits like patience, steadfastness, love, mercy and service from those who need them. Applying these in life makes you happy, because it gathers good people around you like a magnet, and lifts you and all around you up.

Our society leads people to develop many other expectations that a reasonable person should find pretty unlikely: I should always be healthy, beautiful and free from pain! I should not have to work so hard! I should be free of hardship or loneliness, people should just like me no matter how I am! I should be free to do as I like! The world should suit me personally!

I should always be healthy, beautiful and free from pain! This is a no-brainer. Observing *any* life, do you see this to be true? Is it then reasonable to expect it for yourself? When you are not healthy beautiful or free of pain it is time to exercise patience and self-acceptance, not to be unhappy. Suffering is real, misery and wallowing is optional. Aging is also real, get over it and do it gracefully. Expecting to be young forever is foolish.

I should not have to work so hard! Why not? Not all people do work very hard, but most people do. Sitting at a desk typing spends your body just as much as hauling bricks, though in different ways. The brick hauler may end with a bad back and knees, but the person at the desk may end up with a bad neck and hands. We are all wearing out, and most of us are doing it working. A more reasonable expectation is that life is work, and if I do not learn to enjoy or at least tolerate work, I have chosen to be unhappy. Knowing is fun but learning requires effort, whether it is a manual task or a mental one. Expend effort to learn to be good at your work, do your work well, and respect yourself for it. Be happy about it.

I should be free of hardship and loneliness! Most people will pass through periods of hardship and/or lonliness. Being miserable about it does not make you the sort of person people want to be with or help out of hardship. Being unreasonably angry or unhappy about these temporary periods can make them permanent.

I should be free to do as I like! Oh Boy, this one is a biggie... If you are free tod o as you like, play your music loudly, not bathe, get priviledge without effort that others must work for, then you are asking for a chunk of other peoples' freedom. There is a balance in the freedom that we may claim without crowding others. People regularly claimn freedoms they should not: We ignore the elderly and the needy, We bother our neighbors, we are rude in traffic and in person, we try and evade our taxes that support services we use, we fail to give back our time to our community when we benefit from the time of others attending events and using parks and museums. Expecting freedom is the worst of self-centeredness - happiness is honoring the net of obligation and debt that is real.

The world should suit me personally! Why should everyone else live as you prefer, when it annoys you to live as some other prefers? Ha ha ha ha ha ha. If you expect that as a basis for your happiness, you are nuts - yet people do expect it. Live and let live to be happy. It is the 'let live' part that is a little lacking... :) Tolerance leads to happiness.

I am mostly happy, though I have miserable moments, they pass. Faith has been part of my education on how to be happy, and I find it a good support in learning to live in obedience to my values (even when they conflict with my desires), and believing that even when I can't see it, my suffering is to some purpose has been a comfort and support... but I have met other people who are happy without faith, and their values and habits are similar to my own.