I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years.. i'm 25 and he's 27.. the problem is.. there is this 22yr old that goes to the same bar as we do. she has tryed to get in other people's relationships before and now she's tryin to get into mine. she sits there and says that if she wanted my bf then he would be with her and not me.. she thinks she can take him away from me. and that he would leave me for her.. she does nothin but sleep around, she slept with 3 different guys in a week. plus slept with a stripper while they were in our town doin there show. she'll try to run her mouth about me to my bf so we can argue. but yet she says I need to grow up and act my age.. My boyfriend has told me, his mom, and even her that he doesn't even like her like that.. just as a friend, and that he wouldn't leave me for her.. and I trust him, I know he wouldn't do anything. but I don't trust her around.. she already waits till this one guy gets drunk to take advantage. idk what to do.
2006-12-18 11:11:55 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Simple, stop going to the bar. Find a new hang out. And, I'll bet there is one of those types of girls at a different bar too. I would stop partying so much and start to do things with your bf around healthier people. Not bar flies trying to screw everyone in the bar. I know when I was your age partying was all there was. But, there came a time when it gets old and so do the people. Your real friends will still be your friends. The other ones will just disappear from you life as fast as they enter.
2006-12-18 11:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute I read your question I thought to myself, "If she knows where the problem is, then why does she insist on running into it over and over again?" There are so many places for you and your bf to hang out at. Could you not pick another place where she will not be at? Besides, it's not always good to do the same old routine. Spice things up and do something spontaneous and different. The more insecure you look in front of your bf, the more annoyed and turned off he's going to be. You need to be strong, remember all of the good things about yourself that make him attracted to you (inner and outer beauty), and flaunt those great qualities. You don't need to fight over a guy who is already yours. What you need to do is keep him happy to make him want to keep being with you.
Trust me, do not nag him about what your worries are. It seems like you have already talked to him about it and he's reassured you that there's nothing there. My advice to you is, get involved. Plan to do something that he likes to do (not hanging out at the same bar). Invite him somewhere different. Do activities together that will bring you closer. It's hard for a sl*t to get to a man who very much loves his girlfriend. Remember that she wants what you have and it's not your boyfriend. She doesn't want your boyfriend the person, because she already has many other guys to sleep with. What she wants is the relationship, and your boyfriend would not throw away a great relationship to mess with a girl who is KNOWN all over town.
Be proud of who you are. Don't forget how great you are. Use all of your positive qualities to grow a strong bond between you and your bf (by trying new adventures) and when she tries to get under your skin again you just smile and think "I hope someday you can be as lucky as I am!!"
2006-12-18 11:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by C'est m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 22:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend shouldn't even TALK to her let alone be her friend. Knowing that she's saying the things she is he should respect you enough to tell her to back-off and stop mingling around in you 2's relationship. Tell her that if your boyfriend wanted to be with her he already would be. Tell her that obviously he's way more interested in you and as far as you needing to grow up tell her that she can't even keep a guy for more than 1 night so maybe she has some growing up to do. Good luck!
2006-12-18 11:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to take a hike and forget to come back. I would rough her up in the bathroom and follow her there and go confront her also. Tell the town sardine that her panties are all over the boulevard from all the USED session that she attended.
Tell Miss Passed Around to leave you guys alone. Tell this lady that she should have some self respect for herself being used does not constitute love.
2006-12-18 11:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time you two go to that bar and she is there, leave and go somewhere else. You can find another place to go to, and she will no longer have the opportunity to interfere.
2006-12-18 11:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell him it's his problem. Say you want him to get rid of her so she's not around (not murder or kidnapping or assault, just with words). Say you will judge him on his ability to get this simple thing done.
2006-12-18 11:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you find a different bar. or, you tell your bf that even tho he sin't interested in her that way, that they are just friends, that he doesn't need to have a skanky friend like that , and forbid him to communicate with her.... that or whoop her butt !!!
2006-12-18 11:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find another place to go
2006-12-18 11:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat her A$S
2006-12-18 11:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by XxON3LOV3xX 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋