My mom is an alcohalic. She knows she is but she keeps sneaking beers anyway, making excuses that her friends gave them to her or that her friends brought them into her car. I love my mom and she's great at being a mom, the only fault is that she says she's going to Alcohalers I don't know what to do anymore. Please help, but dont diss my mom.
2006-12-18 11:05:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and is there any way that we (my dad and me) can not get anyone outside our family involved? I dont (and my brother and sister) dont want her taken away, and we dont want to be sent away
2006-12-18 11:10:33 · update #1
I know how u feel!Send your mom to AA or AAA which ever 1 it is that cures that
2006-12-18 11:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for you, sweetie. I was in the same boat all through my teens ( I first noticed my mum was an alcoholic when I was 10 ). There is no real answer.
If she says that shes going to AA ( even if she isnt ) then it means she recognises that she has a drink problem. This is a big step, honest. Keep pushing her, if you reckon she's a great mom then she is, she just needs your help. It's tough though. Dont take too much on yourself, she's the parent and she needs to take resposibility for herself and for you. If there is another family member you can confide in then talk to them, try to get some help with her because it wont be easy.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 19:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by penny century 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not force someone to change, especially your own parents.
A lot of times it takes something very traumatic to open peoples eyes to how what they do effects others. And a lot of times they do well for a while afterwards and then fall right back into their trappings.
Express your feelings with your Mother about her drinking and lying to you. Make her understand that if she is going to lie to you then you will not be forthcoming with her either.
There are meetings (AlAnon) for children/ parents/ spouses of substance abusers out there. I would think they would have some good, tried & true methods derived from experience, not opinion that could be very helpful. It may serve you very well to look into something like that.
Hope this helps you somewhat. Good luck.
Remember, it's hard work, but in the end, it's all worth it.
Namaste
2006-12-18 19:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by brenda h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she aint a drunk, she may just have a social drink now and then which is normal for lots of parents.
Now , a little alcohol benefits the heart and health.
She is not an alcoholic unless she drinks 24 hrs a day.
2006-12-18 19:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult, and she's gotta be responsible for herself. You can find out when her AA meetings are and remind her about them. But beyond that, there's not much you can do if a person doesn't want to help themselves. I know it's frustrating. Hang in there...hopefully she'll come around. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
2006-12-18 19:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by crom248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has the spirit of addiction. That is a bad spirit. And she cannot help herself. Neither can you The truth is that she is desperate to be free from alcohol. she does not like it just like you and your family
Thank God you love her. God loves her much more . With prayer and thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. I am suggesting that every day you kneel down and thank God that your mother is as she is Then ask God to deliver her.
Why thank God before the healing? Because you are expressing faith in God, telling Him you know he can do it.The thanksgiving is as if God has already done it. then rejoice and wait and see what God can do. Be sure to let ANSWERS know how God answered your prayers.
2006-12-18 19:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Pathfinder!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a cousiler or take every alcaholic drink in the house and dunp it in the toilet. or tell her that every day she has to say no to at least 1 or 2 drinks. she will slowly get out of the habbit.
2006-12-18 19:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by vittyvittyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight; Mom stop making excuses, get help no matter what; I love you and want you to be here ; hang in there ; pray for help ; it is great that she has a child like you who cares; the very best to you and her!!
2006-12-18 19:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have a sit down talk with her tell her how you feel about her drinking then talk about going to meetings with her that way she doesnt see you as a threat and you know what she is dealing with
2006-12-18 19:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by chrissy n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and talk to her about alcohol and how it's bad for her and her body. Just explain to her that it makes you uncomfortable and upset to see her drinking. She will understand and stop.
2006-12-18 19:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋