It was in all good intentions and out of my heart that I gave my BF's sister a xmas gift last night at the family's early Christmas. However, I was personally hurt when she didn't recipocate with a gift to me or her brother. How should I handle this? Sister and Mom are tight!! So can't cause to much friction! But, I am hurt, I do like her, and it just hurts she obviously doesn't feel the same regarding me.
2006-12-18 11:01:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Giving should be done with no expectations of receiving. If you do this, you will never be disappointed.
FP
2006-12-18 11:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to handle it? First heed all the advice of those that remind you a gift is free will offering that does not require reciprocation. I absolutely disagree with your statement that "she obviously doesn't feel the same about me". There are many reasons people can't/won't/don't give gifts. Everything is NOT all about YOU. There is nothing to DO! Nothing to say. Don't make drama! Enjoy that you were included in the family gathering. If you routinely send Valentines, don't exclude her.Go about things as usual, don't mention this again. There is nothing here to be concerned about! Look for the fun stuff!
2006-12-18 11:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by irate wench 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it came from the heart you shouldn't be waitting for a gift, when somethign comes from the heart it means you really wanted to give what ever it was to that person regardless you were getting something back or not. You might get somethign back later, just think about it that way. I've gifted many times and what i receive many times is better from what i gift, health love from people and sometimes even people say hey i owe you this or that from that day or what ever and hey it pays. Next time you make a gift, gift it REALLY from the heart, not expecting something in return, is better that way ;)
2006-12-18 11:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't give gifts to receive them back. That's missing the whole point of getting a gift for someone. I know you didn't give the gift to her just so you could get one back but you shouldn't've expected a gift back. Although everyone who gives out a gift expects to get one back....sometimes you're shocked because you don't...and I'm serious..that doesn't mean the person doesn't feel the same way you feel for them. People give gifts out to show that they were thinking of that person. Sweetie when you were shopping for a gift you were *thinking* of her. Gifts are about showing that you *thought* of that person. She didn't give you a gift back but I'm sure she cares about you and truly appreciates the gift you gave her. Sometimes we all (even me) forget the meaning of gifts. We get so exited about the holidays and presents that we forget what it's ALL about. I hope you have a great Christmas and New Year. :)
2006-12-18 11:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about giving is giving......its not a trade, it is a gift....possibly sis did not expect a gift from you, so she did not want you to feel funny about getting and not giving....or maybe she is stretched financially this year and had to limit her gift list. I would not take this personally. Don't stress about it, and just enjoy Christmas....think of it this way, at least you were included in the family celebration...my family doesn't even bother getting together anymore....so SMILE!!! Happy Christmas :))
2006-12-18 11:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is never given because one is expected. A gift is given because one desires to give a gift, can afford to give an gift. And should find joy in the giving of a gift. And she may not have had money to purchase a gift. God bless****
2006-12-18 11:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would even give it a thought. If they didn't give you a present back, so what?! A gift should not be given in the spirit that you expect one back. She was probably very pleased to receive the gift, therefore you should be satisfied that your gift has been well received. Mission accomplished.
2006-12-18 11:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You handle it with grace and maturity. Perhaps when you're engaged or married, his sister might feel compelled to give you a gift. Maybe she didn't have enough money to buy you anything. Forget being hurt and be pleased with the joy of giving- yours.
2006-12-18 11:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...the real act of giving is...giving something without hoping to receive anything in return...but don't feel so bad about it...who knows they are just waiting for the right time to give you back something in return. Anyway, there are still plenty of occasion that happens to us within the year. Good luck and merry Christmas !
2006-12-18 11:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handle it graciously and don't say a thing. You'll be the better person for it. If you do mention it, trust me momentarily you will feel good, but in the long run you'll wish you hadn't. Be the lady that you are and say not a word.
2006-12-18 11:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn that in giving it comes from the heart and you should not expect anything back in return!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's the true spirit and intention and beauty of giving. Any thing else is plain selfishness.
2006-12-18 11:12:44 · answer #11 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋