I know he loves me and is faithful, but I wish there could be more romance and maybe a little more cuddling. And DEFINITELY more sex! Am I asking for too much?
2006-12-18 11:01:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to communicate, sit down after you cook him a great meal (a man is very happy after a full Delicious meal) then asks him how he feels about your marriage. Then that is when you tell him the truth about you just feeling like a roommate, and that you would like more affection, and attention it is that simple.
2006-12-18 11:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girrrrllll I feel you on that, I have been married for 61/2 years and I guess this is just a phase you go through. Have you tried initiating the romance? Sometimes even when we feel we do it all we can still do more, make some sacrifice go out of your way for him, what you put into your marriage is what you will get in return. At least most of the time... this is not always the case but, try don't give up... may be I should give you my number, so we can help each other with this issue.
2006-12-18 11:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not asking for too much at all. Quite frankly it sounds like your situation is the same as mine. Have you asked yourself why it might be that he is not showing sexual interest? Do you think he might have a small medical problem he is embarrassed to talk about? Or maybe the two of you have been married so long that you both have, in a small way, let yourselves go? Try putting on a sexy show for him and playing to his fantasy side. maybe do something a little "out of the box" and rent an adult film to watch together. Get saucy and mix it up. Then maybe you will "awaken" something in him.
2006-12-18 11:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jaybo 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try dressing more scantilly at first & talk about your sexual fantasies while havin a few drinks. Maybe walk around with just pantyhose & a t-shirt on. If your friend seems to like what he sees, let hubby touch n rub you in front of him. Then ask him if he'd like to join in.
2016-05-23 05:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to come on to him for a few nights. If you start things up by initiating everything, he may just get back into the swing of things and start reciprocating.
If he doesn't, you'll definitely need to talk to him. Be honest and open and ask him if there's anything he wants to get out so that he has a chance to talk too. :)
2006-12-18 11:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it could actually be a physical or psychological problem. he may need some kind of counseling or you may need counseling together, maybe there's something going on under the surface here. I empathize, my wife has some psychological issues concerning sex and was never with anyone before me so it's hard to believe she loves me sometimes when we don't umm yeah very much but I have to remind myself that that's not the case and she's trying to deal with it.
2006-12-18 11:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Boludo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why don't u spice things up make the first move find ways that will get his interest , find a cute move for both of u to watch nd just sit next time him and cuddle ....call him up and invite him for coffee or dinner some guys just need reminding and a little push in the right direction .
2006-12-18 11:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by amal L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask him about it. He's your husband! If you two can't talk about this, there is no hope. Tell him how you feel and go from there. Maybe he is feeling the same way about your attitude to him. It doesn't just have to come from him all the time. Why don't you initiate it, and he may warm up to it all again?
2006-12-18 11:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by helly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the real world sweetie this happens a little too much in a marriage. Try talking things over with him in a good way to where he understands and opens up and talks to you about it.
Let him know how you feel and how you want to feel.
Good luck on this one cheers.
2006-12-18 11:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evidently yes you are. He has you hooked, figures you are not going anywhere. Are you sure he loves you? He may just too lazy to go looking for another gal to clean his house and wash his clothes. I bet if he found a new girlfriend tomorrow he wouldn't act the same way towards her.
2006-12-18 11:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋