How to tell someones family to stop sending christmas cards to you?

Question

If you and a former friend haven't spoken in over 3 years and her parents keep sending their family christmas letters to you which says how all their lives are going great when you really couldn't care less how they are or where they are. I've tried to be nice and not mail a nasty letter to them telling how I truely feel I've even gone to the post office and had them returned to sender but they still don't get it. so I'm asking whats a nice way to make them stop sending christmas cards and letters to me so I can prepare for next year since this years has already come and was burned "accidently" of course. Oh and their entire family knows we're not speaking and the complete reasons as to why we are nolonger friends.

Answer 1

Send a new years card to them with telling them that their New Years resolution should be not to send holiday cards to you. If you don't talk to anyone in that family and you could really care less... the just be honest and tell them that you feel uncomfortable receiving cards and to please stop. I had that happen to me before... weird, why do they do that? But ya be honest and direct! Merry Xmas

Answer 2

They are probably doing this as a way of retaliation. Its like opening more wounds by triggering unneccessary memories you would rather forget. If it were me, I'd call and say, I really appreciate the cards but I would rather not receive them. Have a happy holidays! Be sincere in your regard but then if they start being friendly back and talking just say you called to deliver that message and wish them well...before they can carry on the conversation say "Ok well nice talking to you goodbye" then hang up. If you still receive these, then despite trying to be nice and about cheer and good will during the holidays, you may just have to be more direct and it may come out nasty but you should either in person or again on the phone call and say please stop sending me these cards! Then after that you have no control. I would ignore them, not open them etc. but I see that even seeing these in the mail upsets you. Just be direct and respectful at the same time. This way you get the message across and they leave you alone!

Answer 3

Just because you and your ex-friend are no longer close that doesn't mean you and the family now have to hate each other. Like someone else said...stop being a scrooge and send 1 back! Maybe the reason they keep sending them is cause they're not getting 1 back and don't think you got it from them. Send them a letter back saying "Thank you for all the wonderful cards! My fridge is filled up with cards I've gotten with you two and I barely have any more room and I appreciate all the wonderful cards you got me! Merry Christmas!" That should make them stop knowing that you have no more room for their cards. I hope this helped.

~*~*Happy Holidays!*~*~

Answer 4

Maybe they still like you. You could always just throw them away. We have too much anger in the world probably to let this get you down. Lots of worse things probably happen every year to you. Maybe you could compose one to them and make up a total lie about how you are now rich and powerful or have some disease that is contageous or something funny you could just screw with them if you really feel frustrated. Tell them you were married in Las Vegas to some stripper or poker champion and had it annulled LOL.

Do you suppose they are doing it to get under your skin like they are really passive aggressive or are they just hoping you will come back? Like I said you could just not read it and toss it. Hey they don't send money do they???? :)

Answer 5

Explain to me how not talking to your ex friend means that her family can't still care about you........
It's time to remember that they are tyring to be nice to sent you christmas cards like everyone else........they may be saying is I understand the reason that you two aren't speaking and we still want you to know that we care about you.
If however, you can't stand the thought that someone can be nice while others around them are fighting then tell them that you dont' want them to send you anymore.......I wouldn't suggest this because you sound pretty petty not wanting someone to send you a christmas card that has nothing nasty in it about you......and they didn't just write it to you they addressed and wrote it to bunches of people and mailed you...........It would be nice to say thanks acknowledge that someone is wanting to say have a merry christmas and go on..........If you can't stand the thought of reading the card then throw it away........but really to tell someone not to send a christmas card is awful

Answer 6

BA HUM BA---dont be such a scrooge, send them a card back.
Get some love and good spirits going there.
Sounds immature not to accept a christmas card.
Think positive and enjoy Christmas to the fullest.

Answer 7

Write "REFUSED" in big black letters on the front of the envelope (don't open it!) and drop it in the mailbox, or give it to your postmaster. Best not to actually tell them anything. Let the post office do it for you.

Answer 8

It's probably your ex friends family way of saying that they appreciate you regardless of the incident between you and he. If that's it, then I'd find it flattering that they think of you independently, which in my eyes says you made a very favorable impression on them.

Answer 9

So what? Why would this even bother you? Why can't the family still be nice to you? They sound like nice people to me.

Answer 10

i don't see what the big deal is. it is them wasting there time, not you. just throw it out if you really don't want to read it. maybe your former friend's family thought of you as part of the family and don't want to loose contact with you because of your falling out with their child...