my boyfriend is 15 years older than me.i knew him 10 months ago.altough we quarell sometimes i falled in love with him,but i'm afraid for our future together.do you think that this relatinship can work or it is better to find another of my age?
2006-12-18 10:54:06 · 11 answers · asked by topy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, if he's 36 years old he is not a "boy" anymore, but to answer your question, yes, a relationship with 15 years or more difference in the ages CAN work. But it won't be easy. You will run into a lot of problems that you never anticipated. My daughter is 17 years younger than her husband and they have a fine marriage. BUT there ARE times when my daughter longs to do things that he no longer cares to do because he's "been there, done that" and so she does have times when she gets depressed. Just be very sure before you make any permanent steps that your love for each other is strong enough to survive the winds of change that will inevitably come.
2006-12-18 12:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age gap is not the problem here. I think a 5 year age difference is no big deal BUT you're only 15, how can you be married? Isn't there a law against an adult marrying or engaging in sexual intercourse with a minor? You're still a minor. Legally, it's statutory rape. I hope apart from family, no one else knows that you've had sex coz you will get your guy into trouble with the law.
2016-05-23 05:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you as a trophy. Telling all his buds that he's got a young chickie. You two quarrel because of the generation gap. If you want to stay in this relationship then you need to hone your skills to stay in the conversation, up to his level. If this is just a sexual relationship then you need to move on and find someone else closer to your own age or around 6 years older. Guys that are 6 years older than the girl usually work out the best, maturity wise.
2006-12-18 11:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that the odds are against this working out. I have known several 18-20 year old girls who have "fallen in love" with older men who prey on this age group. None of their marriages lasted longer than 2 years. They all came out of the marriage with one or two small children and a huge debt. These men used them until the men found someone else to chase.
2006-12-18 11:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age differences generally do not matter in relationships as long as one of the parties is not a minor. Enjoy your relationship!
2006-12-18 10:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if hes demanding and controlling. He night not respect you due to the fact your much younger then him. But then agin he might be different. The heart has its own plans so follow your heart.
2006-12-18 10:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can certainly teach you a lot of things. Follow your heart- that is what is important.
2006-12-18 11:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age problem is not a problem at all...
Make sure he is financially secure & stable...
2006-12-18 11:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
36 ain't a boy, honey, and yup, he's too old for you
2006-12-18 13:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using you
he has probably had sex with a hundred girls
he may have a desease
you do not know where his penis has been
2006-12-18 10:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Doctor_Ashley_proctologist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋