2006-12-18 10:49:04 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's awful for you. You two are meant to be in love, insults and violent anger have no place in a loving relationship. When she is calm tell her how her behaviour makes you feel and that if she ever behaves that way again you will be forced to leave her. On no account should you respond to her violence and insults in kind. This will only fuel her rage and you could end up in a fight for your life.
If she does it again, you must leave for the sake of your sanity and for her own good as well. You are not doing her any favours by staying to allow her to continue the cycle of abuse.
A woman abusing a man is as bad as a man abusing a woman. Many think of women as weak creatures who cannot hurt a man but this is a complete misconception. If she decides to pick up a kitchen knife, she could easily kill you whilst you try to defend yourself. You don't need this.
2006-12-19 03:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read some of the other responses and was a little disturbed. It sounds as if you are in an abusive marriage. Seek some guidance and assistance from domestic violence organizations. Don't be ashamed because you are a man, they are designed to help you as well. Don't suffer in darkness because things won't get better they will get worse. By no means should you retalliate unless it is to save your life, two wrongs don't make a right and its unfortunate, but the police will only hear that you hit her.....until......so help yourself and help her....seek professional assistance; they are just a phone call away!
2006-12-18 11:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by hope_713 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
domestic violence is wrong. it doesn't matter whether is a man hitting his wife or vice versa. it should not be tolerated. my advice to you would be to get out now. don't hit her back. don't insult her back. pack a bag and leave her and don't go back. tell her that she needs to get help. are there children involved? they don't need to hear your wife screaming and shouting and being violent all the time. i know that this must be a difficult time for you but be strong and walk away from this situation. you are not her punchbag.
perhaps you could do with some counselling to give you some inner strength to cope with your feelings.
i hope that you get out soon. take care.
PS. the next time that she starts to abuse you call the police and have her arrested.
2006-12-18 20:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by cheekkkychik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not believe that you people are telling a man to hit a woman... If your wife insults and beats you is that really love? You do not need someone who hits you, and you do not need to hit her back. For all you know that one lick may knock her down and cause more damage than good for you... it may land you in jail. What you need to do is walk away leave her and tell her you will not come back unless she gets help for her anger. Love does not hurt, and it does not cause pain.
Please do not hit your wife two wrongs do not make a right...
2006-12-18 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence is never the answer, and no amount of counselling is going to make your relationship work once this violence has started...in this respect women are just like wife beaters, once they have a taste of the power, the control over their victims, it will not stop and often gets a whole lot worse. I say "victims", because sad to say that is what you are...a victim. Having been there myself i know just how you feel--its time to bale out, NOW. Best of.
2006-12-18 22:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spousal abuse is a very serious matter. You should try to get her some help. Some abuse is learned behavior and some can be mental. If she does not agree to getting help I would advice you to get help for yourself. As an ex-abused wife I can tell you that even if you leave her without getting help you will likely end up with another abuser. Break the cycle no one deserves to be hit
2006-12-18 11:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by darling23 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should phone the local police station and ask to speak tam o the Domestic Vilonce Team (DAIT Domestic Advice Investigation Team)
You need thier advice , no one Male or Female deserves this. They can point you in the right direction.( not enough men come forward with this but the police are there to help)
Just updating after reading above messages .....dont fight back , you dont want to end up looking like the guilty party
Good luck m8
2006-12-18 10:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Byte 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get help! Males can be victims of domestic abuse too. It's not funny and you should not be insulted just because you're expected to be "tough." She has NO right to do that. But it is your choice to leave her. I hope you make the right decision. Counseling would be good if you need help making it.
2006-12-18 17:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You grow old with her, take her abuse, agree with everything, then find yourself a 50 year old miserable man who hates everyone and blames everything on the wife and eventually kill her and end up in jail crying yourself to sleep.
Or you can leave the b****, realize your freedom, and let her hunt down her next punching bag that will make everthing bad in her life feel better.
2006-12-18 10:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No No NO! Do not accept this! You must leave her. Violence is never acceptable, regardless of who is the perpetrator. And insults will gradually wear down your self esteem until you find you do not have the strength to leave. Do it now before things get any worse.
2006-12-18 10:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋