In order to change you need to admit you have a problem I know I have a problem but dont know what it is.....?

Question

Here is my symptoms can you see if you can figure out my problem? I failed my freshman year in high school, I got to college and I said I was not going to make the same mistake. Got there and sort of took advantage of my freedom. I barely went to class because I never really learned I usually would have to take the book and learn it on my own. I would wait to the last minute to do stuff because I liked the adrenaline rush and simply because the material would be fresh on my mind if I were to study like a day before the test. But doing it this way caused me to fail even though I felt confident that I wouldnt. And when I try to start studying early I never can because it bores me and I usually wind up doing something else. I try to change but I can't. I need any help I can get to change this because I don't want to be a failure and let my family down.

Answer 1

Ohhhh, loaded question. And with a lot of potential answers. I've taught at the college-level for 8 years, and I see this a lot. And as a teacher, I don't take it personally (unless the student begins to blame ME for what they're going through), and just realize it's a part of things. What I mean is that it's not about me; it's about how I can help students find what they really want to do.

It may just be that you're meant to do something outside of academia. That doesn't have to be factory work, or trying to gain an assistant manager position at some local gaming supply store, or whatever. Maybe you have other talents that seem more interesting and more pressing? Massage schools, beautician schools, design schools, et al, are more applied, more practical, and offer more social networking than the traditional route. And other routes exist, too, for other interests. I can't see, at all, from your message, what may or may not interest you. But you can have a stable, fun, and rewarding career, outside of academia.

If you really want to stick with academia, can you indicate that? I don't put any personal info out, without good reason, so I won't post it here. But I'll be happy to offer some coaching, advice, anecdotes, whatever.

And on a different note, it could just be that you've built up certain habits which you're trying to escape, but you're unsure of how you should go about doing this. And if you want to finish college, go on to graduate school or some other route, you'll need some ideas and encouragement. Maybe I'm not the person to do that; that's up to you to decide. But seeking out academic advisors, teaching assistants, professors, and whatnot, and asking them the questions, asking them how they've succeeded, might help.

Also, examine the friends you have; do they represent where you want to be? I'm not advocating just "ditching" friends, but if there are a lot of people clamoring for your time and attention, who bring little more than drama and bad influences to the table, maybe reconsider how much time you spend with them?

Answer 2

In the 1st place..you have to want to succeed for you not your parents..if you go thru life trying to please everyone you will end up a miserable old person who hates her life (like me..but I am not old)..I learned that the hard way..Maybe u aren't ready 4 the challenges of college..nothing to be ashamed of..I was the same way.. now that I am older and settled down...I know what I want and I am going for that but I am struggling because I went to college and failed so many classes..it's almost impossible to get my grade back up..maybe u should take some x off to decide what YOU want...U ulimately have to live with your decisions..get a job..save some money..figure out what you want and then later if u really want to go..then go..if not..there is no shame..don't let anyone shame u into thinking u r a bad person if u don't go to college or finish college..it's not 4 everyone..maybe a tech school would be better..1 year training in something..

Answer 3

i don't know what it is but i had the same problem. almost failed senior year of high school and i never even skipped a class. then when i got to community college it seemed like no one cared weather i was actually attending classes or not so i said screw, i'm not going today... or the next day... and only one class today.. lol (even though its not actually funny) and finally just figured i was going to stop and hopefully someday i'll have my life more together and can go back. so now i work and just wait for the day when i'll have money and try again.

good luck, your not the only one.

haley

Answer 4

It's just procrastination. Very common thing to suffer from. The problem is, people do it for as long as they get away with it. Your problem is, you now have concrete proof that you'll fail. That's where you need to change.

If you get bored easily, you can look into drugs like Adderall. I normally don't advocate drugs to help you study, but it may be worth a shot. At least, ask a doctor about it or do some research into it before trying it.

Answer 5

You definitely lack motivation! You need to reach the mature realization that college and/or higher education is a privilege. Lots of kids have trouble in high school for many reasons, but most I knew rebelled against the fact that they were forced to go to school.

College is different. You (or your parents) are paying for you to be there and for the education that institution offers. Once you realize that you need to better yourself and realize how lucky you are to attend college, you might actually take interest in your studies. Demonstrating true interest and a willingness to learn and devote time to learning will help a lot.

Answer 6

You are deliberately failing and using this pretended genius of yours to provide the excuse that you wait until the last minute to do the work. You are lying when you say you don't want to be a failure. Being a failure is easy. Work is hard, and you still might fail, which would blow your genius illusion out of the water.

Get counselling, or you will fail your way throughout life.

Answer 7

You are being lazy and irresponsible. (I don't mean that to insult you, everybody gets like that sometimes.) College is different. You have freedoms you've never had before. Sometimes you have to learn things the hard way. And sounds like you just did: Just because you have all this freedom doesn't mean you should exercise it everyday!