My boyfriend and I have been dating 8 months and I am pretty sure that he is going to purpose to me really soon. I'm still in school and he isn't. My whole family absolutely adores him and I know that they would be very happy if we got married. We love each other more than anything else in the whole universe and I think he is just the most amazing guy. I just wanted to know what other peoples opinions are on getting engaged so early in the relationship. I want to get engaged and I want to marry him. I am just curious as to what everyone else thinks.
2006-12-18 10:13:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By school do you mean high school or college?
Think about your life ahead as if he were not in the picture. Would he make a good business partner - because marriage is a business as well as a love connection. Do you have similar values on parenting, sex, religion, travel, education etc.
I would wait until you have finished this phase of your life to start another one. Be careful about wanting to please your parents. They are not moving in with him.
2006-12-18 10:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? How old is he? Do you both have jobs? Are you in school? Get practical. Wait some, sweetie -- you can always get married. Oh, and use Birth Control... there is nothing that will flatten out your love faster than a new baby before you have time to be a couple.....guaranteed. Just read the questions on this site.... amazing how stupid people are. " I loved my bf so much. we now have a baby, and he is always out running around with his friends, while I am at home, stuck. I can't go anywhere. We have no money. Help me. What happened??? What should I do????" Read 'em honey.... It could be you.
2006-12-18 21:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat only me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months. I think it is to early so i told him that i want a long engagement (until I at least get into collage). I think it is early but it shouldn't matter what other people think. It is all about if you are ready. Its a huge step. I hope in whatever it is that you do, you will find happiness.
2006-12-18 18:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Huck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how much you think you know, you know nothing... If you are still in high school, you know absolutely nothing. In 10 years, you will regret this... if your marraige lasts that long, that is. The divorce rate is over 50% in this country (US)... higher among people married before 30. You think it won't happen to you... At the very least... wait a year... whatever happiness you have now, this is as good as it gets. the sex? this is as good as it gets. It does not get better, so you need to be sure. 2 years is a decent amt of time.
2006-12-18 18:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by listentome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, to marry now is a bit early, but I'd wait at least until u graduate, plus it gives you plenty of time to plan for what you want. My aunt and uncle met , got engaged 2 weeks later, then got married 5 months later, and are happier than ever.
2006-12-18 19:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by firstlove021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. I think that you really need to sit down and think about if this is what you want. I know that time is not an issue if you are really in love with the person and see yourself spending the rest of your lives together.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 18:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by mydds07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in high school, you should wait to get married. You are too young to make a commitmnet like that.
2006-12-18 18:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
engagement ok but you need to really get to know him before such a big commitment like marriage, good luck
2006-12-18 18:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think itz a great idea if ur sure u and him are meant to be why wait?? i've been with my b-f for almost a year now and im pretty sure its about to happen...if ur seriously in love and happy then do it!!
2006-12-18 18:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life ahead of you. What's the hurry? You should definitely wait.
2006-12-18 18:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋