Talking fast due to shyness?

Question

I'm a shy and soft-spoken person, but I'll sporadically open up to some people for a quick moment. Normally I'm VERY quiet but I will occasionally open up. I imagine that it is somewhat like what a snail does. I'll come out of my shell for a few minutes, then quickly go back in. When I do open up though, I find that I talk really fast and feel as if I'm rambling. Like today, I started talking to someone I'm usually very quiet around, which is probably a good thing because they actually heard me speak. But I realized that I was talking a mile a minute and I don't even know if what I said made sense. I'm wondering if I totally turned this person off or if I will now become an annoyance. I want to make more friends and open up to people, but I'm afraid of turning them off.

Is talking fast a common thing among shy people who try to open up? Why does this occur? Are people turned off because of it and do they find it annoying? Or will they get that it's b/c of shyness?

Answer 1

I so can relate to this, I use to be such a shy person my self, yes I feel it is why we talk fast, my brain thinks quicker than voice at times and can't keep up. I too get the feeling that people I am normally quiet around must think what is wrong with you!!!!

I have learnt over the years, to just think before I say (this has at times been frustrating for me as by the time I get to say something the subject has changed). It's a learning curve that you can only work out for yourself. It took me a while to learn how to speak much slower but now I am okay, I still talk fast espeically when I get involved in a conversation that I am very confident in what I am saying.

Good luck, you will work it out for yourself, just say to your self, speak slower, think about what you are saying, does it make sense, practice in front of the mirror (hey sounds whacky) but it may help you it did me. I also have a good friend who tells me to slow down, take a breath and then talk normally. Hope you have a very good frien/friends to help u out too!!

Answer 2

I'm a shy and quiet person too but when I talk I don't know if what I'm saying makes any sense. I feel like my mind is thinking really fast but not slow enough for me to form sentences. lol. I know it's weird.

When you find that you are talking fast just make a comment about it and laugh out loud. That's a great way to break the ice with a good laugh. (I would laugh anyways...). When you see the person again just say hi and ask them how they are doing. If you don't say anything they might think that it was something that they did. I hope all works out well and GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Some people will notice that a person is shy. But talking fast isn't really the obvious thing for being shy. People will probably think you're hyper. :p What you have to get over is being conscious about how you look or sound to people. You have to ease your mind and just be natural like when you're by yourself and there's nobody around. Don't feel like you're being watched or on stage. Be calm like how you type messages.

Answer 4

Well...I am usually a very shy person first meeting people. But i'm starting to get over that. I think you should talk to more people still. If your talking fast..Say sorry and laugh about it...Try hanging out with them...and ask for thier number if you feel comfortable enough. You probably will get to know them better and not talk fast. Then when in person, you might not talk fast. Just and idea..Hope it helps.

Answer 5

I had that exact same undertaking. I have been given over it by utilising basically telling myself that i'm maximum possibly never going to be seeing those people back, and that they in all probability won't possibly bear in suggestions me in any case. Get them what they like, answer their questions and basically smile lots. you do no longer could desire to make small consult with sell issues, basically be well mannered.