My MIL and my SIL are probably going to host my shower. They have not said this to me but I think my SIL mentioned it to my husband. Which is wonderful as I am very grateful that someone is kind enough to be doing it.
The thing is, my own Mother and sister live thousands of miles away and we only get to see each other 2 or 3 times a year. They are scheduled to visit for a few days when I will be about 17/18 weeks along in my pregnancy. It is very important to me to have them at my baby shower and so would love to have the shower while they are here. How do I bring this up to my in laws without sounding tacky or presumptious?
2006-12-18 10:09:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have said it best!!!! Tell your inlaws that it is important to you. Having your husband tell them ahead of time may spare you the conversation and they may bring it up instead. Good Luck, remember its YOUR shower so it should be convenient to you! Good Luck!
2006-12-18 10:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by drtcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk to your MIL and SIL..
"Darn, I really wish my mom and sister could share in the joys of me having the baby. It bothers me that I might have friends who will plan a baby shower but my mom and sister will not be here with me. I really miss them."
Then change the subject. Just be very careful with this one. We had a friend that just got reidiculous about it (where she wanted it, when and what gift she would and would not accept). We ended up not doing a shower at all. Work it into conversation and I am sure that they will get the hint.
2006-12-18 10:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you mention it your husband. Have him tell them that you mentioned that your family will be visiting when you are 17/18 wks pregnant and that you would really like them to be able to attend your baby shower. Most baby showers arent tell later on the pregnancy so Im sure your family will understand if one is not thrown for so early in your pregnancy.
2006-12-18 10:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and ask.
Say: "I told my husband my sister and mother will be visiting at a certain time, and they suggested gearing up a baby shower, but he said, no no, my sister already mentioned that she wanted to maybe throw it"
I'm sure if you subtly mention it, the jealous 'other auntie' will jump right in and take over the task at hand.
2006-12-18 10:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you think the idea is awesome but you are not really feeling up to a shower (you can easily pull this card) and don't really need anything right now. Unless you want to get some free diapers and such, then by all means take advantage of it by specifying what you need and don't need.
2016-05-23 05:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea. I said I didn't want my shower until AFTER MY BABY WAS BORN. I said it a million times, everyone agreed, people were planning on it.
Then all of a sudden my husband's aunt decides that a baby shower after the baby is silly and throws one for me. The problem is she only gave people like a week notice and NONE OF MY FRIENDS WERE THERE.
It was awful.
Maybe throw your own shower?
2006-12-18 10:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with you mom/sister and explain to them how much you want them thier
have them call your inlaws and request to come. That way you don't come right out and say you know, but you have given your family the oppertunity to give you what you want.
2006-12-18 10:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband to talk to them.
2006-12-18 10:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband to say something about it!!
2006-12-18 10:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop big hints or just come out and say it.
2006-12-18 10:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋