I'm a shy and soft-spoken person, but I'll sporadically open up to some people for a quick moment. Normally I'm VERY quiet but I will occasionally open up. I imagine that it is somewhat like what a snail does. I'll come out of my shell for a few minutes, then quickly go back in. When I do open up though, I find that I talk really fast and feel as if I'm rambling. Like today, I started talking to someone I'm usually very quiet around, which is probably a good thing because they actually heard me speak. But I realized that I was talking a mile a minute and I don't even know if what I said made sense. I'm wondering if I totally turned this person off or if I will now become an annoyance because of how quickly I talked.
Is talking fast a common thing among shy people who try to open up? Why does this occur? Are people turned off because of it and do they find it annoying?
2006-12-18 10:06:53 · 6 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, I have done that in the past and I used to be very shy and reserved. When people talk with you, you feel like talking about all the stuff you haven't talked about before. You get a little rush of excitement and have to share with others for just a minute or two. When others talk to people without the shyness, they can just even out and be calm about moderate speaking. It's different for us though. Good luck. I get it!
2006-12-18 10:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all know people who talk fast, whether they are shy or not! I myself never even notice it, because I'm so used to my friends who apparently talk a mile a minute...I guess I'm just really good at keeping up! So, who knows, maybe the speed of your speech wasn't as noticeable as you think. I myself am also quite a shy girl. I'm usually very quiet, but when I do talk to someone I don't know too well or feel very comfortable around I don't talk quickly, it's just that the things I say seem to make incredibly little sense or just don't come out right at all. I always wonder what those people think about me...I'm not always like that! So, I guess we're kinda in the same boat, aren't we? Well, best of luck to both of us, and I hope that the person you were talking to never even noticed anything different about your conversation :)
2006-12-18 18:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I don't know why your shy, but sometimes I have things I want to say- but just Don't say them... so when I finally get a chance to voice my opinion I talk really fast so that I can get all my thoughts out at once. If you really want to talk to people it should be with others who find it amusing or do the same thing- not get annoyed- cause wouldn't that just end up annoying you?... hope there was Some usefull information in there
2006-12-18 18:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by firewrksgoboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a shy person myself, but mine is shyness to more of a crowd, like 3 or more people. But it maybe that you talk so fast cause you been thinking to much and you have alot to get out cause you have all this stuff built up in your mind just waiting to get an opinion, or to move it out of the way or something like that. And to test if it is annoying just ask them. There would be no way to tell otherwise I suppose cause some might like that you talk fast and others might not like it.
2006-12-18 18:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Blaman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know this girl that does the same thing i can uderstand her becouse well im a girl but if its a guy try to slow down and say short sentences to start off. try talking more often on conversaitions get involved its not like they are gona talk about what u said becouse the conversation is not about you. im probably the complete oppastite of you but i used to be just like you. i just started goin a lot more places with my friends and now i dont even care what i say im not shy at all. but try to let that person coment on what ur sayin than just keep on goin and goin. good luck!
2006-12-18 18:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for shy people to open up to some people , it may be that you are attracted to them or you think that they are interesting and want to know more about them ,some people find it annoying but some may understamd you are shy or they may be shy also , think about who you have opened up to , have you seen them more than once , if you have then maybe its an interest you share you want to talk about . I hope this helped byebye
2006-12-18 18:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jess..<--(`v`)--< 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋