I work with people, both young and old, who are trying to get their GED. the younger ones tend be punks and they hit on me. i'm pretty close their age. They say things like "are you going to be my teacher cause I'd have lots of fun with you." and so on. if it happened on the street i'd ignore it or say something rude. but i want to be professional. What is the best way to handle a situation like that?
2006-12-18 09:59:57 · 15 answers · asked by jay-z8900 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
btw. i'm talking about the students hitting on me and not my co-workers
2006-12-18 10:03:50 · update #1
You have to report it to your supervisors, who legally must take action. If they do not, you can sue your employer.
2006-12-18 10:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should act the professional and not let your guard down.
It just so happens that some are near your age, but that is where the commonality ends.
Everytime you get what you know are inappropriate comments, you are going to have to be Miss B**** and set them straight. And preferably in the presence of others.
As for the words you use, well, that will depend on the circumstances and what he actually says. But I think you should consult with your superior and explain your situation and ask he or she what they recommend.
Personal respect is expected anywhere and in the workplace it is even more so. When there are words used that are disrespectful, it really needs to be dealt with immediately, if for nothing else, to set a precedent for the others.
2006-12-18 10:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are working with them as a group go over the ground rules the first day. Remind everyone that they should have respect for the group and that harrassment in any shape or form is not tolerated. If someone approaches you tell them you want to help them succeed in getting their GED and would hate to no longer work with them bc of a potential HR situation. If it persists, they are out. A lot of these young guys think they can get away with this type of behavior. They are looking to get a rise out of you and while you want to help them, you need to look out for yourself first.
2006-12-18 10:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kati B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if it is the students and not your co workers be flattered until they take it to far. When they cross the line of just hitting on you with pick up lines to touching you that is when you take action.
Words are just words men and boys do it trying to see what they can come up with it is sort of like going fishing. They are trying to see if you will take their bate take no action just smile and go on as though they have said nothing until it is time too take action.
When they go from talking to touching that is the time to take action Swift action legal action let they know with out no doubt they touching you will not stand for, words or just words but touching is out of the question.
2006-12-18 10:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consulting with your supervisor and/or HR is always a good policy. However, if you cannot find what you are needing on those fronts you can always reply with something along the lines of "While many may find that flattering I do not. This is a professional environment and I expect you to act accordingly. This is your first offense and my only warning. One more comment along those lines will find you out of this program." If you are truly dealing with punks they will only get the message if you are firm and kick out the first person who is stupid enough to do it twice. You want them out to facilitate learning on behalf of those who are there wanting to learn.
2006-12-18 13:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you draw the lines clearly early on.
Come up with a fictitious boyfriend and talk about him lots during the conversation and bring it up. That way, they will get the message clear.
2006-12-18 10:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a smart intellectual comment back at them.
2006-12-18 10:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jayne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Say something! let them know its not funny and you dont appreciate it..the worst thing to do it just let it go..if you speak up they might realize it was out of line.
2006-12-18 10:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Contact the Human Resources Department... That is sexual harassment and should not be tolerated.
2006-12-18 10:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Dan J 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Call them away one on one and let them know thier comment was inappropriate and you will overlook it this one time however if it continues there will be consequences.
2006-12-18 10:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋