My christian sister says I'm evil?

Question

My sister is a christian, which I thought was all about love and families, but she's really gone off the deep end this time. My daughter and I have been uninvited to Christmas Dinner because my choice not to be a christian offends her.
Two weeks ago she wanted to foster my daughter because of all the evil I was inviting into my life!!???? This co-incided with her learning from another 'christian' friend that she could get an extra $150 a week for having her. She told my girl that 'mum can't look after you anymore' and even swapped bedrooms around to accomodate her.
Our parents told her to give my girl back straight away and now she hates them as well as me.
I've told her I love her and her family, and that I care about her but she won't listen - it's like she wants this to go on for ever. When I ring she just spits on about how evil I am. Should I get outside help? Talk to her pastor? Or just have our own christmas, just the two of us and my boyfriend? But its CHRISTMAS!!

Answer 1

It sounds as if your sister is a very selfish person. It is unfortunate that she can't see past her on bigotry (for whatever reason) Maybe you should talk to her pastor, surely as a man of God he would understand. Maybe open her eyes. I am lucky in that my family accepts me. I am Wiccan. All my family is Christian. At first they were a bit hesitant because they did not understand. I really expected my sister to reject me because of my choice, she is a devout Mormon. But they all realize that it is my life choice, it makes me happy. And of all the family my sister is the one who supports me! If you sister will still not accept you for who you are, you have no choice but to kind of break off ties, she may eventually come around. In the mean time, invite the rest of your family over for your own private celebration (may I assume that you are more likely to celebrate Winter Solstice?). No matter, holidays are important family times. Do the best you can to enjoy the family that is accepting. But don't hold it against her, she just does not understand, and you can't shove your beliefs down her throat!
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Answer 2

well i'm a christian and it doesn't sound like your sister is a christian. cause if she was she wouldn't be judging u for who u r. she would be trying 2 help u and ask u if u want 2 accept Christ in your life. I want u 2 become a Christian cause u have a loving heart and God likes that. i don't know if your sister is doing her job as a christian, she should encourage u in all u do. if u would like 2, email me at [e-mail] if u feel that u want 2 be a Christian. your sister is probably a loving person but i think she made a mistake 2 judge u and your Lifestyle just because it is not like yours. I will pray for u and try 2 encourage u just remember if u are not well or had a bad day u can always call on Christ and he will lift u up and help u out through what ever u r going through. John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only begotten Son. That whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. (NKJV) this means that God loved u so much that He sent His only son to die for u so that he would save u and God loves u so much that if u were the only person on earth He would still die for u because of how much He loves u. okay have a merry christmas day and may God bless u and your family

Answer 3

Its hard when it comes to religion and how people feel about that. Everybody handles it in a different way. The best advice I could give you is to write a letter to her and just put it in her mailbox. Tell her that you know and respect her religion, but that even Jesus would not want sisters to fight and not celebrate his birth together. If your sister thinks that you have sinned..... well isnt that why Jesus was born to die for our sins. It doesnt matter if you dont belive in him, or if you two have different religions. You two are sisters and sisters should stick together if you two truly love each other. If she still doesnt want to listen then you know she has gone down another path in life, and unfortantly there not the same path. Dont ever hate her beacuse the hate will erase all the good you two shared as kids, forgive her and try to understand. Belive me I know its hard, I have actualy been through something like this with a friend and her brother. Love usually does win though. Keep hoping Good Luck to you and yours. And Happy Holidays!

Answer 4

Sister is dead set on this so just don't go around for Christmas. She has made up her mind that you are the scum of the earth so my opin . would be to just have your own Christmas with your family. Some outside help would be good. But I think you should be with the 3 of you and to hell what sister thinks.Get over the holidays and think about how to handle her in the future. She is dead set on making you evil at this point and no need to take it further. Hope this helps and you have a merry Christmas with your daughter and b'friend.

Answer 5

First of all, KEEP YOUR DAUGHTER AWAY FROM YOUR SISTER. What you just said she did amounts to emotional abuse. If she wants to foster your child and considers you evil, don't put it past her to report you to Children's Services should she see fit.

Whatever problem your sister has with you has nothing to do with Christianity. Your sister doesn't seem like she wants your help and the fact that she's burning bridges with her parents as well??

Have you tried talking to your brother in law? You could try talking to her Pastor, but I would first find out about her church and what denomination it is before approaching her Pastor. It sounds like she's gone off the deep end or joined some cult.

When someone is religiously zealot like that it scares me, because you don't know what they are capable of in the name of religion. My personal advice to you is to just ignore her and avoid all contact with her until she decides to respect you and your decision about your personal religious beliefs. She has no right to impose that upon you or your child and there is no religion that teaches you to impose your will upon the other.

You've already told her you love her and accept her, it's up to her if she wants to give you the same courtesy and from what you say it definitely sounds like she is not interested.

As for Christmas dinner, don't show your daughter any less than spending it with people who love and treat you with respect.

Answer 6

There are people who don't understand the meaning of being a Christian....your sister is one of those people.

You can try talking to her pastor....but in the meantime just understand your sister doesn't realize that's she's gone too far.

Have your own Christmas and invite your parents over to spend a few hours....you don't really have a lot of choice.

Answer 7

Sorry to hear it- I am a christian and do associate and love the parts of my family that are not- she may be a bit off-- and mislead- talking to her pastor sounds like a good idea- I think it was tacky of her to uninvite you- I wish I could talk to her- she is missing a lot- take care and Merry Christmas-D

Answer 8

I would try talking to her pastor. Even he would see that she seems to be going off the deep end. He's probably the only one that she will listen to. Until then, simply tell her that you will always love her, and will be ready to talk to her when she pulls herself together and gets some help. Keep your girl away from her. Then back off for a while.

Answer 9

Be sturdy on your non secular existence.. study Bible & pray in case you have the present of talking in tongue, talk to Jesus. he will improve you. lots of the actual Christians faces this occasion on the commencing up of their non secular growth. Temptations and doubts come from devil. So once you sense temptations and issues, understand which you're interior the main surprising course and devil % to disturb you. Be sturdy in prayers...God will furnish help to

Answer 10

Just forget her. There's no way to change people who are that set in their beliefs, and you do NOT deserve the abuse she is putting you and your daughter through. Stay in contact with the rest of your family, but stop contacting her.