My daughter is almost a year and is attached at my hip?

Question

She has gotten a lot better sice I went back to work, and she started daycare. But on the weekends, she will hardly stay in her crib and nap, and at night she wakes up at odd hours crying to get in bed with me. The only way I can get to sleep is to let her, but it's driving me (and my husband) crazy!

Answer 1

She has just gone through a big change with you going back to work and not being with her all day. I can totally understand why she would want to be attached to your hip. She sounds like she needs assurance right now.

If you want her to sleep on her own, you will have to be really consistent and patient with her. If I were you, when she wakes at night I would let her fuss for about 5-10 minutes (unless she is screaming, then immediately tend to her) and see if she can put herself back to sleep. If she is unable to, then you need to find a way that works for you and her to teach her to self soothe.

I find it really hard to listen to a baby cry so the whole cry it out option did not work for me or my husband so I found a compromise that worked for all of us. Around 8-9 months, whenever my son woke up (about 50% of the time he was able to put himself back to sleep, the other 50% of the time I had to help him) I usually rocked him to sleep and put him back in his crib, even if that meant I was up every 3 hours. I would usually get a couple of days where he slept really well and then he would wake up again. I finally decided that we needed to do something more to help him and me get more rest. We started to do our normal night routine (bath, book, nurse and a few more cuddles and rocks in the rocking chair) and instead of putting him down asleep we put him down awake. We sit by him until he falls asleep. The first night he was a little annoyed, but he did not cry. It took him about an hour to settle but he slept a good 8-9 hours without waking. We are now staying in his room for about 20 minutes. Night time is so much easier for us!!!

If your daughter does not have a soother, you may consider letting her hold onto something at night before you put her down. We let our son hold a bear blanket and he cuddles with it at night.

During the days on the weekends, make special times during the day where your attention is focused on her and her only. Do not worry about the other things you need to do. If she wants to be held, hold her and play with her. This time will go by so fast and before you know it your little angel will not want to be held anymore.

Hang in there and good luck to you!

Answer 2

When she wakes in the night, you could try soothing and patting her in her crib momentarily (like 30 seconds or less), then leave. Come back in 2-3 minutes if she's still unhappy, and repeat. This can go on for an hour or more, but she may start to get the idea within a night or two, and within a week or two she may sleep through the night by herself. We had mixed results with this technique.

Also encourage her to have a favorite blanket or stuffed toy to cuddle with in bed. (With a stuffed toy, be sure it's labeled for all ages rather than 3 and up.) She can focus on the blanket or toy as a stand-in for you. If she really gets attached to it, consider getting an identical one so you can wash one while she clings to the other.

Some people recommend just leaving the kid alone until she cries herself to sleep, but I'm no fan of that technique. It's just miserable for everybody.

Good luck, this is a tough problem. Your pediatrician may also have suggestions.

Answer 3

i think it is a stage they go thru.My daughter just turned 12 months old and before she never wanted anything to do with and only daddy mattered.But now she freaks out if I am not right there beside her.If she sees me leave she starts to cry and at the docter when I sat her on the scale she freaked out and the nurse had to stand between us.She has also gotten to where if I put her in her crib and as soon as I put the side up she freaks out. I really dunno if it is just a stage for her,if she can sense a baby/change on the way(am 33 weeks pregnant) or if it has to do with daddy being gone for 10 days at a time.

Answer 4

Well you ought to nip this within the bud and speak on your fiance. It is well she is practically her Mother however you're feeling disregarded and wish to be a household. Sounds such as you Fiance relies to a lot on Mommy for the whole lot. Grandma more often than not does plenty for the little one as good and your fiance does not wish to depart considering of it. I might give up spending such a lot time over her Mom's residence and if she refuses to move over your residence and does not budge on being a Mommy's woman then I recommend you be for your daughters lifestyles and give up this courting till she will develop up and through that point it could simply be to past due.

Answer 5

Well, it would seem maybe she just misses you. but it is OK to let your child cry, if you are trying to teach her something worth teaching, but I would maybe check out the day care she is in...I don't know about you, but I've seen a whole lot of day care stories where children go in fine, and then start acting up after words, and all because something at the daycare was off a bit, but This is just my opinion, and This is why I never send my kids to any kinda day care. Good luck in your findings

Answer 6

Award her with little treats if she stays in her bed. Be stern and tell her that she has to stay in her bed but can come visit when it's light out. (thank goodness for day light savings) but understand that there aren't too many 16 year olds that are hanging out with their mom. She will eventually feel more independent and feel comfortable alone. Hang in there.

Answer 7

And who's the 1 yr. old here? You or her?

If she wakes up, let her cry. Don't give into her just because she's crying. She needs to learn how to put herself back to sleep without mom and dad coming to the rescue. Don't let her sleep in your bed or you'll just have another bad habit to break later on.

Answer 8

DO NOT GIVE INTO THIS. SHE WILL EVENTUALLY UNDERSTAND. I LET MY DAUGHTER GET AWAY WITH IT AND SHE STILL WANTS TO SLEEP WITH ME AND SHE IS ALMOST FOUR. LET HER KNOW YOU LOVE HER, BUT THAT SHE MAY NOT SLEEP WITH MOMMY AND DADDY. I HAVE DONE THIS WITH MY 7 MONTH OLD AND SHE DOES VERY WELL. SHE SLEEPS IN HER CRIB. SHE NAPS IN HER CRIB. SHE WILL LET ME KNOW IF SHE NEEDS SOMETHING. JUST WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T GIVE IN!
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

let her cry it out. it is going to be painful for everyone but after a couple of nights she should start sleeping through the night. good luck!!!!!

Answer 10

do not let her in your bed, you go and stay with her and put her back in sleep