If you knew your child and thier spouse were on drugs?

Question

and has kids not old enough to be in school. What would you do and how would you handle it? Would you send the Police over to investigate?

One more question...how would someone go about making them take a drug test. Can the police enforce it? Does anyone know? Just trying to look out for the children.

Answer 1

Only if you're willing to force them to bring the kids to you and not into a state institution. Kids in such institutions are as messed up as kids raised by abusive or addict parents. Oh, and when you do take the kids, don't let the parents see them (unless it's court-ordered) until they're clean. And remember when you do that, that your relationship with the kids becomes more like a parent than a grandparent--no spoiling.

Answer 2

Yes, notify the local police immediately whether your right or wrong and let the police handle it. If nothing else do it for the kids! This is not a very good situation especially with kids and drugs involved. Just give the police the facts that you know, dont make up anything as they wont believe you if you ever need them again. You can ask to remain anonymous thru this but be advised there could be a real good chance you may have to testify in court if the DAs office needs you. Your testimony may be what is needed to get rid of these guys for a long time and where they cant do anymore damage to the kids. Do it now. Thank you, good luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 3

What drugs are you talking about, how much of them, and how often?

If the parents are smoking hash occasionally, it's unlikely to do the kids much harm (especially if they're only doing it after the kids are in bed and when they don't have work the next day). On the other hand, if the parents are both permanently strung out on speed, methamphetamines, heroin, alcohol, crack cocaine, or the like, then the kids are clearly in an abusive situation. In between those extremes, there's a wide range of possibilities.

If you involve the police, your child and their spouse may well end up in jail, and their kids may well end up in a foster home, quite possibly being abused by someone else who you don't know. If they find out that you caused this, they may never speak to you again. Is the current situation better or worse than that alternative?

Is there something else you could do to make things better?

This sounds like a difficult situation, I think you need to consider your options very carefully. Bear in mind that once the police are involved, there's no way to get them uninvolved again, that's a one-way street.

Answer 4

First, what drugs? If it is just marijuana, then forget it. The long-term effects won't be any different than the long-term effects if they occasionally drank wine or beer.

Second, get a grip on something important. If you call the police, the only tool the police have to use is jail. That means that one or both of them may go to jail, lose their job, lose their home, and have all sorts of other bad effects. It also means that your grandchildren may wind up in some kind of foster care and you will be dealing with the legal system until the youngest one is 18. Also, most people don't take it kindly when you have them thrown in jail. Expect them to hate you forever and don't be surprised if, when they finally get through it, they don't allow you in their house ever again.

The family will be basically shattered by the experience, with or without any real problems from drugs. If you love your grandchildren the police are generally the last people you want to call.

Just FYI, your grandchildren are at least 50 times as likely to wind up dying from the effects of alcohol and/or tobacco than they are from any of the illegal drugs. Just keep that in perspective.

Answer 5

I'm not sure about sending the police over but l honestly think l would ring human services or someone like that. Atleast then you would know the kids would be safe. It is a real tough situation though and unless l had absolute proof l would be very careful. I would not want to loose my child over this but then again drugs are a bad thing and l would want to do anything l could to help to get them off them. Kids or no kids !!! I wish you lots of luck with this situation as l know it must be very difficult for you.

Answer 6

Your grandchildren are the most important thing in this whole senario next to your daughter. You must ask yourself, was your daughter on drugs prior to marriage? If so what did you do about it then, If not, time to look into daddy's past and perhaps consult with his parents. Perhaps then a family meetiing can take place and start talking about all the money being used for drugs that could be put in the bank for the kids.
Now that we have talked to everyone and they are too hooked to listen or too arrogant, get your evidence together and go to the police. Perhaps they know your daughter and her husband already and you don't even know it. Good luck, the ball is in your court. Try not to throw an interception or fumble the ball. The young ones need someone to protect them more than someone that keeps adding Tetrohydrocannabinal (alias POT) to their brain cells. That never leaves the brain. If they are into pot, they are probobly into bigger and better things too. get to work!

Answer 7

You want to send police so the inncocent kids can be terrified by seeing mommy & daddy hand cuffed and thrown in cop cars. Then the kids themselves will be put into cops cars and taken away while screaming for mommy & daddy. Great idea. I would try to seek rehab help for them first or take the kids away if you are able.
If you report them to child services and inform child services that the parents are on drugs they will be asked to take drug tests. Then CPS will conduct several follow up visits. That would be a better way to go if you must do something.

Answer 8

I would go over there myself, spend some time there. Bring or make dinner. A bunch of times. And I would quietly observe. I would encourage the Grandkids to visit me a lot. Stoned parents wouldn't miss then much anyway. I'd ask the kids about it. Money problems? Why? Which drugs? Dealing too? I would then talk with the kid parents about it. Tell them I really care and want to help and some of what I thought. Then I would listen.

so it would depend on those things

Answer 9

I would first confront them in a calm way. If you think this is possible. However, if you feel the children are in danger because of drug use and abuse. You need to contact child protective services, and as a grandparent be prepared to take the children. If their is drug use going on. Drug tests in the state of Ohio must be court ordered, by the judge or through the child protective services to prove their is no use. If you think your child would do it you could ask him/her to submit to one that you purchase at the local drug store. I wish you the best of luck with this. Drugs and alcohol abuse and addiction. Is a big issue within society. It is a disease. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 10

First have a talk with them as they are suppose to be responsible parents. You are suppose to be responsible grandparent. Talk to them and tell them that you will call Child Service and tell the services about their drug habit. You should petition the courts for cusdity of the children if they do now get clean or go in to rehab.

It is the Children we are concern