well i'm >!!really really great friends!!< with this guy, same school n all. we talk everyday on msn but at school it's like we don't see each other at all!!! we've NEVER spoken at shcool and we've crossed paths heaps of times. but why doesn't he ever talk to me at school!!?? personally i want to say hi to him but when i go to say it i completely shut down.
2006-12-18 09:35:41 · 7 answers · asked by Hollow ✌ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no i don't like him.
i just want to know why don't we ever talk!!??
2006-12-18 09:39:34 · update #1
mmm no he doesn't avoid me.
my friend say that it's the fear of rejection. but i don't think so.
okay, now i'm confusin myself.
2006-12-18 09:44:13 · update #2
Listen, if this guy is not willing to acknowlege you in public, then he has some serious issues. As others put it, perhaps he is shy, like you are, but then again, it seems to me he should be over this shyness now you two have spoken so much with MSN.
I think you need to consider that if he thinks you are only worth talking to while on an IM, that he may not be a very good friend after all. I think you owe it to yourself to find out what the truth is. You just can't go on like this, not knowing what he is thinking or feeling, and it obviously hurts your feelings that he is avoiding talking to you in public.
Ii think you need to bite the bullet so to speak, and walk up to him and say helllo. If he acts like he doesn't want to talk, then you need to outright ask him why he is so friendly over the IM, but not wishing to even say hello in public. If you just go on with him this way you will continue to be hurt indefenently, but if you confront the situation then you will know if he is really a true friend or if he views you only as somebody convienant to chat with online, when nobody else is available to go out and do stuff with. This is a shallow relationship at this point and you are being very negitively affected by it. The longer you put up with this the longer it will hurt you and the deeper it will hurt you and it will affect your self esteem.
If you are not good enough to talk to in public, why would you want to have a shallow online relationship with him? Why put yourself in a position of such hurt? You are worth much more than to be ignored while in school, while in public and only talked with when nobody can see it.
If you are lacking is self esteem right now, what is going on is only going to make it much worse. There are many people who don't go to your school who you can chat with online, who will not be in a position of hurting your feeliing every single day.
Now, the idea that he is shy too came up. You can check and see if that is true by how he behaves with others at school. Does he have friends at school, does he have one, two, or dozens of friends? If he is a loner too, then he may be as shy as you. However, if he has several friends he hangs out with, then you are probably a chat buddy of convience and he is not wishing anything more than that from you. If that is the case, then you need to stop this right now and find those who will be happy to have you as a friend. You sound like a very nice girl, just shy. Highschool will not last forever, and one day you will find that you have more confiedence and will not be so shy any longer. Highschool can be the most painfull time in life or the happiest, all depending on how much self esteem you have and confidence in yourself.
You deserve to find out the truth, so go talk to him and see how he responds. If he is not a real friend to you find out now and stop this before he hurts you more than he already has. If you say he is not hurting you then you are not being honest with yourself, as what you wrote is screaming pain and hurt. Treat yourself better and others will too. Good luck my dear and have a happy holliday.
2006-12-18 09:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably wondering the same thing. Say hi. He might have the impression you might not want to talk at school.
2006-12-18 17:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's trying to be all cool with you because nobody knows about you but if somebody finds out he may get embarrassed by his friends.
2006-12-18 19:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Zy'rellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it safe on the msn for now and let a relationship develope if its meant to be.
2006-12-18 17:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make the first move. he is probably just as nervous and shy as you are. he may even be asking himself the same question you are. if he ignores you or acts like he doesn't really want to speak then you know he just wants to be PC friends and not friends in public.
2006-12-18 17:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-18 18:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ahhh!! is it really worth it if he really likes you?
2006-12-18 17:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by stupidSTUPID! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋