have to do a number of things. How do you communicate this to your partner?
2006-12-18 09:29:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just spill it out clearly
2006-12-18 09:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds familiar, there is no way around this you just talk and you both reach agreements on what is more important to do and when and get both sides in. It's good to plan together. I dislike it when my husband would say , which he doesn't dare anymore, that he has a number of things to do without letting me know ahead of time in case there are things we have to do together, like grocery shopping, etc. When, you are partnered, it's not a good idea to go ahead and make plans without talking it out with the other person because you are not alone you have a partner.
2006-12-18 09:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just state "hey this is what I think I need to get done today, do you have anything on your list?".
Then you can either decide to divide things up or you can do the list or you might do them together. I learned this lesson early in my marriage as I am an A type personality and always plan a lot and my agenda is not his agenda. I accept the fact that sometimes he wants to stay and home and do nothing.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 09:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to tell him point blank what's on my "to-do" list so he knows where he fits in. It works for us because we are both really busy with work and the kids... He follows my list with his own and we discuss when we can see each other throughout the day or (if we will be TOO busy) where to meet for dinner. It also serves as a verbal reminder for me of my obligations, so I don't forget anything I intend to do. If there are things I would like him to help with or participate in, I always remind him at breakfast while he is thinking out his day as well.
2006-12-18 09:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by leahivan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply say to them that you have a lot of things planned for the day etc. If you can't communicate with your partner, then you are in trouble.
2006-12-18 09:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dale 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a week set aside 15 min to go over each others schedules for the following week-------things come up? Let the other person know as soon as you do! Pretty simple
2006-12-18 09:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by cecilia s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Honey, I have to go out today, let's do something tonight, okay?"
It's not that hard. If he loves ya, he'll understand. Unless, of course, he's made big plans for you and told you a *long* time ago and then you forgot. Then it's:
"Honey, I have a lot to do today, but I'll do it tomorrow since you've been nice and planned a special day for us."
2006-12-18 09:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you have planned, bit thoughtless if your partner was looking forward to spending some quality time with you. You should discuss and plan things, that's the normal thing to do. xx
2006-12-18 09:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just drop it into the morning conversation.
You know,
Well sweetheart - this is what I've got planned for today... what's your schedule look like for the day?
Should be relaxed, easy and simple.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-12-18 09:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can email this question/declaration to her.
Hey! wait a minute! Its Saturday Morning? What the #!%@ am I doing at WoRk?
2006-12-18 09:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this one's easy. How about something like: "I have a lot of things planned for today..."
2006-12-18 09:32:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋