is it ok for the husband to go to the house of the person his wife had an affair with after she had lied to him about the guy. at the same time i want to know is it ok for the husband to take the wife to the house of the person whom he had an affair with. he intent wasn't to get them to fight but to let her know that there is no secrests between them.
2006-12-18 09:28:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a great way to bring it all out and get it over with. Comfront the situation and let her decide who she is going to be with. It will be uncomfortable for the gal but who cares.
2006-12-18 09:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I am a newly-wed and I would be heart broken if my husband ever cheated on me. Sometimes I do hold out on him. The reason why I do is because I'm not a lamp you can just turn on and off. If he comes home from work and just sits in front of the TV with out paying attention to me, he is definitely not getting any. I have to feel sexy in order to get in the mood and being ignored is the biggest turn off. When he comes home and stops at the door, gives me a kiss and tells me he loves me, its the best! We've been together for 6 years and have had our ups and downs. Cheating is something we both find disgusting. I think that the feeling of getting cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world, I feel its a little worse than losing a loved one. You go through denial, then you hate them but you hate yourself more for allowing it. You can't control what other people do. All you can do is pray for mutual respect. My husband is in the military.There are some of the most unfaithful people in the world there. Once a man leaves overseas, his best friend knocks-up his wife. Its crazy. Thats why we live off base and are picky about the people we befriend. Its a battle of temptations out there. However, the happiest people in life are married and have never cheated.
2016-05-23 05:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way l see it, they both deserve whatever happens to them. If they had been fair and honest with each other in the first place there would have been no cheating to begin with. Who cares now what happens ?? There is obviously no love between them and certainly no respect for each other. A husband and a wife cheating on each other. WOW what a marriage hey !!!
2006-12-18 09:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your distance you both mad a mistake but those people should be off limits to both of you. It could bring up bad memories and it could stir up trouble trust me. I hope that you both are working on communicating because you both had a reason to do what you did not a good one but you think it was at the time. You both were disrespectful and liers. When you care about someone you protect them from being her you say to youself what if this person did this to me and stop its called a concience. god bless you both
2006-12-18 09:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating destroys a marriage. No it really isn't okay for a husband or wife to cheat. If the husband and wife is cheating on each other then they should separate from one another
2006-12-18 10:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jan j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a bad thing waiting to happen. I think if you have to speak with the other guy, so be it. But to march on over there, have a major confrontation, have the potential for fight or worse, is just plain stupid. Asking for trouble. So I wouldn't recommend such action.
2006-12-18 09:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Robbie trd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are no longer true husband and Wife after they have invited a third person into their lives so they can do whatever they like.
2006-12-18 09:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was wrongdoing and for the situation to be corrected, there must be accountability. If the couple in question intend to work through this, responsibility must be taken, and atonement made.
2006-12-18 09:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my opinion is that everybody involved should know what happened and when and with who and why.
then maybe some time to process it and see where it all lands.
then if they all are good people and can deal with, ok.
otherwise just no.
be careful too, people are fragile, even the ones who don't seem to be
2006-12-18 09:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why they did it. It the intent is to make their marriage work and the idea is to have no more secrets, then it should be fine.
2006-12-18 09:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋