What would you do if you couldn't have babies and the friend of a friend got pregnant and didn't want it and was asked to keep the baby for you so you could adopt it? Adoption is not an issue for me but bringing this up to my husband may not be so easy. This friend of a friend is also one of his oldest friends and she doesn't want anyone to know she is pregnant and also does not want me to tell my husband who the babies mother is. I am so confused between right and wrong.
2006-12-18 09:27:41 · 4 answers · asked by Hope 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you must first talk to your husband, you are not dealing about an object, it's somebody's life so if you want to adopt a baby you must do it legally, you just can't go to the police department and say that you found a baby, they are gonna ask you. And if this girl really doesn't want nobody to now she's pregnant she could go to an adoption service center and notify she will give birth to a baby she will give, adoption services usually keep the parents information secret.
2006-12-18 09:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by oposites2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband and see how he feels about adoption in general, if he's okay with adoption, I would ask him hypothetically. if hes okay with adoption then i don't see a reason why he would not want to adopt your friends baby. some men wouldn't want it because it is your friends...but maybe leaving that part out, would be your best bet if you don't think he would approve.
2006-12-18 19:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through the question to him in a hyothetical setting. Just like you askedus, jsut no names involved, if he seems into the idea, then give him more details, jsut make sure that if adoption is what you wantthat this friend of a friend is a clean and sober friend.
Good luck
2006-12-18 17:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keeping secrets from your husband will lead to problems down the road, even if it is for a 'good reason'. maturity seems to be an issue... if they are truly oldest of friends, she wouldnt have a problem sharing with him that she is pregnant to start with, therefor I think honesty is the best course in this all.
2006-12-18 17:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋