My future hubby does not want to be at the birth of our child thinks its gross!We have been together 3 yrs and i am 100 percent sure its his. We even thought back and know the sex position our baby was made in.Even though i am getting sick of the saran wrap jokes (thats what we used as protection) he makes i still want him there!I dont understand!its even the sex he wanted a boy!Its gotten to the point that i have called of our wedding again!over this issue!
2006-12-18 09:18:06 · 27 answers · asked by Bella C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am due christmas day and this is stressing me out!how can i convince him?I refuse to give birth without him!
2006-12-18 09:20:41 · update #1
If i dont have a choice in being there why should he get one!
2006-12-18 09:22:19 · update #2
He's probably just grossed out about the whole thing. He might change his mind. Men act funny around these types of situations.
2006-12-18 09:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. You "refuse to give birth without him"? That's crazy. And impossible, by the way. At the very least, it is extremely dangerous even to try to not give birth when it's time. Your doctor won't allow it. But maybe you should consider this before you actually marry this guy. What a wimp he must be. The thing is, I'm not even sure your question is legit because I've never heard of an intelligent person using saran wrap for protection during intercourse. THAT'S CRAZY and STUPID. I'm sorry to be rude, but it is true. Maybe you should give the child up for adoption.
2006-12-18 17:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys are just not cut out for that sort of thing. My husband chose to be there with me but l know of a lot of guys who could not handle the blood and stuff, it honestly made them nauseus. What is his reason for not wanting to be in there with you ?? Also what did he say when you called off the wedding ?? If he is acting as if he doesn't care, well then perhaps you are marrying the wrong guy anyway !! Don't get married just because you are pregnant to this guy as that is definately for all the wrong reasons. You have obviously made it very clear to him how you feel and to no avail, just try speaking to him again, and calmly explaining that you need his support with the birth of his child. Unfortunately you don't have a choice in the birth, you have to be there but he doesn't. It's that simple !! Best of luck with your new bub and have a very Merry Xmas.
2006-12-18 17:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is crazy that you called your wedding off because he can't stand the grossness of the labor...>You need to find a way to take him to the hospital to do the tour and help him get over the fear of seeing all of that...Maybe you can rent a movie on child birth as he does not know what to expect....You keep calling off a wedding, you will be a single mother.....
2006-12-18 17:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he was there at the beginning and should be there for the ending! Also, let him know that when he matures, he will look back with regret for missing the birt. Its not like he has to do anything other than hold your hand, you are doing all the work! His job at the birth of HIS child is to give YOU the support you need.
2006-12-18 17:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Marty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try for a compromise..... Tell him he can stand at the head of your bed that way he doesn't have to look at anything going on below the belt. If you discuss this with you doctor they might be abe to put up a small curtain to help shield the view and he could be by your side throughout the birth. Good luck and Congratulations!!!!
2006-12-18 17:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men are afraid of witnessing childbirth. They can't handle it and end up fainting. It has nothing to do with how much he cares for you or your baby.
Another phenomenon that you should be aware of is that there are some men who can no longer make love to their wives after witnessing a baby pass through the vagina.
Give him a break on this one.
2006-12-18 17:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Vehement 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he will be less than the companion you need if he were to leave you alone during the most important time in you all's life...tell him that he doesnt have a choice..assure him that he doesnt have to look at the baby being born but you want him there to hold your hand and be the support that you need. let him know that if he love you, he wont abandon you! tell him he can stay up top by your head
2006-12-18 17:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im sorry he feels that way. There really isnt anything you can do. My feelings is you arent the only one to blame on getting pregnant so why should you have to be the only one going through this. Yes he might think its gross tell him he doesnt even have to look just be there at your side.
2006-12-18 17:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to suggest to him that he can be in the room with you to hold your hand he doesn't have to look at anything! You shouldn't force him - it can be hard for some men to see birth and still find their spouses sexy. Some have acutally gotten divorced over it.
2006-12-18 17:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋