I've notified my husband that I no longer have any feelings for him. He said I was insensitive and wrong for doing him dirty. Am I really doing him wrong? I can't help that my feelings have changed. No matter how hard I try to feel something, nothing is there. Wouldn't it be "wrong" to stay and sell us both short of our happiness? If I'm not happy, I know that he won't be.
2006-12-18 09:14:12 · 11 answers · asked by Tana C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he is hurt. Wouldn't you be? Maybe he truely loved you and you didn't, and he feels cheated because he pledged his love and life to someone who didn't return the favor.
Ending it when it is hopeless is the right thing to do, but that doesn't mean he isn't going to think you're the bad guy.
2006-12-18 09:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, youre being totally honest with him. He probably still has strong feelings for you, and by saying what he is, is trying to make you feel guilty and wanting to stay. You know your own feelings and that your not happy. If you dont look out for yourself then your hubby or anyone else will. This doesnt make you a bad person just because youre willing to stand up for what you feel. You should be commended for trying to spare his feelings great pain, although the truth does hurt. Deep down inside you,you feel that its over and want out to move on. Stand your ground on this and the rest will take care of itself. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-18 09:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are not the bad guy. You be if u stayed in a relationship that u are not happy. Things would get so difficult and hard. its best to go ahead and end it now before u get to the point that u might blame him. time will heal and if he is a understanding person he will see that it was the best for both of u
2006-12-18 09:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by lmw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant help that you your feelings have changed, it doesnt make you a bad person but you definitely be blamed so be prepared. if you arent happy, you have the right to find happiness,life is too short or you can try to rediscover your love for him, there has to be a reason that you fell in love with him
2006-12-18 09:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is considered the bad guy in the relationship of his ex and he. The whole family blames it on him where as they dont see what she did. You shouldnt feel like the bad guy and dont let your husband make you feel like you are. Things happen
2006-12-18 09:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they hurt one always trys to make it out like they are the victim but feelings change and its not fair for either party to stay in a relationship where the feelings are not the same
2006-12-18 09:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ana P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right your husband is probable upset because he really cared about u but u are not a bad person all he needs is time to get over it
2006-12-18 09:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to e -mail me, my first wife said the same thing to me and she is still single 5 years later stuck on geared to income housing and can't get any decent dates - yet here I am re-married to a slightly younger woman, (15 years younger....lol) now we just had two kids and bought a new home and life has NEVER BEEN BETTER!
2006-12-18 09:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how this person ends it, there are many examples but you get the idea, no lies, no commitments after knowing that things dont go straight forward. etc
2006-12-18 09:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ..it would be wrong to live a lie...he is hurt...time will help him heal...you loved him once...be kind to him and don't try to hurt him anymore....
2006-12-18 09:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋