First of all i hate cigarettes they are so nasty.....whats even more nastier is when i kiss my gf only to find out she taste like an ash tray its so freaking gross blah yuck!!!! I have gotten her to quit before but then she started back up and i was like that makes no sense and then she quit again and then started sneaking them again behind my back its so freaking gross i just wanna take the whole pack and chuck it out the window when im with her!!! It really bothers me and i dont know what esle to do about it can someone give me ideas or what to do???? I have already just tried to sit down and talk to her, and i know its hard cuz her friends smoke and her mom buys them for her so what to do??
2006-12-18 09:09:17 · 12 answers · asked by chs200619 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't make a person quite smoking, it is a very addicting and hard habit to break and it is only made more difficult if the person doing the quiting is not ready to quit. I quit while I was pregnant with all three of my children, within the first month after having the first two, I was back smoking again. The last time did it for me. I went cold turkey all three times. I have known people that have had success with the nicotine gum. It is made more difficult by being around people that smoke, occasionally, under the "right" conditions I still want a cigarette, but I don't cave in. I tell myself that I just want the action of smoking, because I know that the chemicals are no longer in my system. If she is ready to quit, you need to support her, tell her to talk to her doctor about helping her to quit. If she needs to avoid people that smoke, then help her to avoid those people and situations, it also may help to find something that she can do instead of smoking. So when she craves a cigarette she has another action (something with her hands is best) to take that place. Also, be prepared for mood changes and crankiness. Remind her that she is doing the right thing and she is making a healthier decision for herself. Best of luck to both of you.
2006-12-18 09:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY do NOT do number one, she will HATE you for it, she'll get in trouble with her parents and will be embarrassed - she might even break up with you. A month isn't really that long for a relationship, however if you feel like you guys have a pretty deep bond, just talk to her straight and tell her how disappointing it is, and how it turns you off to see her engage in such bad habits. Hopefully doing this will make her understand that you care a lot about her, and enough to make her put it aside.
2016-03-13 08:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either accept her with her smoking or you walk away. I quit smoking before my GF did, and i didn't like that she still smoked, but it was just one of those things i had to overlook because i cared for her. Learn to love her despite her ash tray breath, or learn to love being single :)
2006-12-18 09:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Chazz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her, but you can't keep kissing an ashtray. She's great, but you can't make yourself stay around her until she kicks the nasty habit. It's hard for her, but you need to tell the truth...don't let her habit steer you away from the things you love about her. If you don't say anything...you'll just explode, and then you'll forget how much you really love her until she's gone. Break it to her easy.
2006-12-18 09:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tawny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have started dating her since you knew she smoked. You can't ask her to change for you. And stop worrying, sounds like you are both too young.
2006-12-18 09:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pache 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly, theres nothing you can do but encourage her to quit! If you try to make her, she will just sneak them behind your back. Trust me! The only way she will quit is if she wants to. IF you are mean and rude and start chucking them out the window, this will only make her ticked at you, and will not in any way solve the problem. Be nice and help her quit! And be understanding if it doesnt happen right away!ITS HARD TO QUIT!!!!!
2006-12-18 09:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by gobengal1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE blunt! tell her she tastes like SH-- and sticks to boot and people are talking about her and how bad she smells and the awful breath when she talks..if she doesn't get the point..dump her..otherwise a long relationship will include you at her bed side while she is dying of cancer or some other awful disease..good Luck
2006-12-18 09:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by flashrtp 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way I see it you have 2 options: a) Get a new girlfriend or b)put poppers in all her smokes and blow the ends off
2006-12-18 09:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by quazeebear 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't get her to stop. She is going to have to want to stop for herself. It's simple. If she doesn't want to stop, she won't and you telling her even nicely is not going to help.
2006-12-18 09:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
while she is sleeping next to you punch her in the forhead as hard as you can, that should knock some sense into her.
o yeah when she asked what happend make sure you tell her that she got out of bed and ran straigt into the wall.
It worked for me!
2006-12-18 09:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋