I have this friend who is very competitive and controlling. She's a manager for a credit company and I've known her for years. I'm a a creative free-spirit. Recently she invited me to her kid's party and I was so sick (got in a car accident) but showed up to help. After helping, I tried to participate but she told me I was acting like a kid so I went to her room and talked on my phone for a bit. She got mad at me and ended our friendship. She did a lot of things that made me question her loyalty. She knows I'm working on my credit/bills and she gloats about her perfect credit. She is cheating repeatedly on her mate so she never wanted me around him but the only time I saw her animated was when she talked about how this guy satsified her or how she left some girl in the dust at work. I don't know why she just makes me feel so bad. I have talent and my own husband but why don't I trust her around him? I know he'd never want her. I'm hurt she dropped me. I never betrayed her.
2006-12-18 09:02:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, your friend is the type of person who makes herself look good no matter what she does at the expense of others including friends. In her own mind, she is automatically and always better than anyone around her. Putting others down especially in front of others, feeds her inner strength and leaves her wanting more. It really doesnt bother her who she hurts. You have to be on the same level of strength or better to expose her as a fraud, basically you have to be able to do to her what she is doing to others to stop her and you cant have feelings like she has for it to work. People like her should not have friends as she has no idea how to treat them as humans with respect and dignity. You are far better a person than she is and therefore dont really need her as a friend, no one does. Someday someone will expose her and reality of what shes been doing will set in and shell come crying for friends. So until she does give her space and seek better friends. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-18 09:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have dropped her as a friend a long time ago. She is damaging your free spirit with her wicked ways. She doesn't want you around her husband for two reasons. One because she doesn't want you telling him about her extra curricular activities and two because she would take your husband in a heart beat (if he would let her) and thinks you are just like her even though you don't possess those same qualities. As for your husband obviously you trust him so I would do my best not to worry about that. She's really not a true friend any ways. She probably would have dropped you a long time ago if she had other friends she could count on like you but I bet she will be calling you soon to patch it up. I would tell her no that her decision for the two of you not to be friends really should have happened a long time ago. If you patch things up with her she will just keep drawing the goodness out of your free spiritedness. Don't let her do that to you.
2006-12-18 09:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Janet J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The toxic friend wasnt really a friend. This woman is very selfish and thinks only about herself. This was a childs birthday party and since you didnt mention having any kids I am uncertain why she even invited you. I dont see her friendship being a great loss. Dont be certain what a man doesnt want. If you dont trust this woman in any way then its best that you not try to undestand her actions.
2006-12-18 09:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put her in her place, at least u dont cheat and brag, u arent a tramp, shes no good, stay away from people that think they are better and more powerfull than u, shes no good influence, when all her secrets get out into the open and she comes to u for help, remind her of how she treated u, what goes around comes around
2006-12-18 09:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by katykat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to put up with friends who make you feel bad. Let her go, she probably needs to walk all over you more than you need her as a friend and misses you more right now.
2006-12-18 09:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that she ended the freindship. You two are not on the same wavelength as you mentioned so your better off without that kind of negative influence in your life.
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-18 09:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trouble. She sounds like a controlling and mean spirited person. Stay away from her.
2006-12-18 09:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Friends should not make you feel bad about yourself. Friends should not be hard work. She cannot be considered a friend.
2006-12-18 09:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was never your friend, be careful of her and steer clear. Go find someone that shares your interests and ethics to be your friend.
2006-12-18 09:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋