i have this friend. she is mean to everyone and she thinks that she is "all that". Well.... my clique dosen't. We want to get rid of her.
Any suggestions?
p.s. i have to be nice when i do it
2006-12-18 08:49:12 · 7 answers · asked by Cassie L. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give her another chance.
you don't have to point out straight that she's mean.
it's not a constructive criticism.
hang with her, when she does do or say mean things, say something passive with good attitude: "that's mean." or "that's wrong". if she cares, she will asked why was that mean?
if she doesn't care to ask or rebukes your explaination, then you can distance yourself from her. you are busy to her invitations; and it's personal business. if she respect you, she will stop pushing with detail questions.
remember friendship is about respect and caring. hope you will find a good friend :)
2006-12-18 09:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Maré P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just freeze her out. All of you agree to stop calling her, stop returning her calls, don't make room for her at your lunch table, don't pick her for teams/groups in class, etc. When she speaks to you, pause just the tiniest second, then give her the briefest reply possible while still being frigidly polite, then turn back immediately to whatever you were doing/discussing. She'll get the hint real fast, without you having to be outright mean.
Of course, you could give her a chance first - have an intervention: all of you sit her down and say her attitude is unacceptable, and that she has to start being nice or you all won't be friends with her anymore. Then either she'll improve and you'll have another friend, or she won't and you'll be rid of her.
2006-12-18 16:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly just stop hanging out with her... Still be nice but if she asks u if you want to go somewhere then tell her no...or make an excuse...and dont invite her anywhere...or casually tell her she is being mean and people are talking about her and making rumors so if you dont put yourself in check then we cant be friends andmore...I know it sounds a little mean but you need to look out for yourself...People will start talking about you and get the wrong idea if you still hang out with her...
2006-12-18 16:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by *Breath* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of just dumping her, why don't you point out her bad behavior when she does it. If she gets upset at you, just tell her you don't want to hang out with her until she starts having some respect for others. Maybe she'll get the hint.
2006-12-18 16:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks she's all that and she's mean to everyone, then you don't have to be nice. You can tell it ike it is and say, "(Name), we really hate the way that you treat everyone and how you act. Either change your behavior or leave."
2006-12-18 16:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Traveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to her and hang out with her and she might ask whats wrong then tell her why u want to stop hang out with her. Good luck with that.
2006-12-18 16:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no friends because I have tattoos
2006-12-18 16:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by jeans545454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋