If you are a proper loner like me how did you convince your parents you are content alone and don't want or need friends or a girlfriend or to get married one day? I have tried telling my parents I prefer my own company to most other peoples but they can't understand it. They believe I honestly want a girlfriend to settle with eventually and that i don't REALLY like being alone all the time. Nothing could be further from the truth if I had my own house I would not have anyone living with me and I am bored mostly by socialising and yeah a lot of people don't really interest me. I'm not arrogant either because I feel I am boring myself, I find I enjoy little and don't get excited much that even includes my own Birthday or Christmas. Can any of you guys relate this because I know there are more people out there that prefer being with there own more. I have honestly been a loner most of my life (I just turned 22) I don't get lonely (seriously) I could go without seeing people for years.
2006-12-18 08:33:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sod what anybody else thinks. If you are content/happy, then thats fine, don't worry about what other people think. If anything, sounds like the only thing getting you down a bit is people hassling you, so just ignore them and get on with what you want to do.
2006-12-18 08:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by rikerlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are happy then thats all that matters. I think your parents do understand to an extent, however it is a 'norm' for people to interact with one another, so I think they probably wish for you to go along with social norms, It's understandable. However people shouldn't conform to certain norms if it does not make them comfortable or happy, there is no point in doing something if it makes you unhappy.
I only enjoy my own company but to a certain extent, I get too bored on my own to keep that up though. I really admire the fact that you are comfortable enough in your own company. I feel that perhaps you are more stable/secure than most people, because you don't feel the need to rely on people for company.
I think your choice is fine if you are happy, it is acceptable. I hope others will understand your choice as well.
Take care, all the best.
x
2006-12-18 09:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by nicky_bronx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, i don't know anyone with your extreme desire to be alone. But my dad lives alone, and he said he wouldn't have it any other way. He divorced my mom like 20 years ago because she was a cheater, and hasn't lived with anyone since, not even a fish. He still likes when we visit for his birthday, christmas, thanksgiving and things. But he really enjoys just living in his home by himself. But He still gets people trying to find him a girlfriend, and he is 53. I don't think most people are open minded enough to accept it, and i think you will deal with people like that all your life (probably why you prefer to be alone). I guess just keep explaining it to your parents, or just ignore them when they bring it up.
2006-12-18 08:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm female and happily married, but I can relate to that. You are happy with your own company and there is nothing wrong with that. I too enjoy my own company. My children (grown up) do not understand that I like doing things on my own and being on my own. I do not think you are anti-social, you just enjoy your own company and do not feel lonely.
2006-12-18 08:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand i am a loner my self i hate having to be around family and a lot of ppl. i do have a few select choice in friends that i rarely hang with but other than that i prefer to be by my lonesome. how to tell ur parents well never gonna happen they believe what they want to believe and hear what they want
2006-12-18 08:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy this way ignore what other people think. Maybe in the future you meet someone that you like being with
2006-12-22 02:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by superstar68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder whether you have interests that don't involve people - do you hike, swim lengths, read, collect something, fix cars, cooking.........
If your parents see you actively doing stuff that interests you then they shouldn't worry.
But if you just spend your time looking at the television, well, maybe they have a point?
2006-12-18 08:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In the final analysis it does not matter what other people think.
You know.
Be youself
2006-12-18 09:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what ever makes you happy you do not get excited about any thing? that's sad. what about kisses and cuddles not miss them.
2006-12-18 08:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You must be an Aquarius?
2006-12-18 14:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by dustylee33 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋